I'm a parent and a secondary school teacher and I've witnessed a change of empathy in parents who have children who are excluding, bullying or demeaning other kids in the last few years. I think a lot of parents are ignoring it in relief that it's not their kid being bullied and in some cases, even proud of their child's power over their peers.
In my meetings at work with parents of children who behave negatively towards their peers, parents are not talking to their kids about being kinder to others or about including them. It seems to me like being a shit is the new cool. "Be kind" translates as everyone be kind to me and my kid, but fuck everyone else.
As a parent, if I've ever flagged anything up to another parent, they have usually been supportive and got their child to apologise if they have upset my child, but I wouldn't feel comfortable about raising anything with most parents anymore. Most don't want to hear it from what I have experienced at work.
Do I just have a very pessimistic view of parenting these days? Or so you think parents really are pleased when their kid is in a position of power over other kids?