My partner of 3y left me today...handhold please

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My DP of 3y left today. He's got a very difficult relationship with his ex wife and daughter. Things have escalated recently with his ex not paying her half of the mortgage and the bank threatening to repossess the house. His daughter was stopped seeing him and his family when they first separated and was told lots of lies about him. She's now a teenager and barely sees him. He's got a court order to see her but because of her age she has a choice. He is very upset about the house as he wanted to keep his child's home safe until she was 18y and now he doesn't know where she will live. His credit rating will be ruined if the house is reposed and he will be unlikely to buy a home of his own.

All of this has got too much for him and he says he can't be in a relationship now and needs to sort his issues out himself.

I really love this man. This pain is so bad I feel heartbroken. I can't stop crying. I'm struggling to work and be a good mum to my own children.

Please help me feel better

Maybe he just needs time and if you give him some space he may come back when the time is right.

As far as the property is concerned he could consider talking to the bank and seeing if he can buy her out.

He can definitely explain to the credit agents and ask to put a note on the file about his finance associates.

I hope it all works out.

Firstly sending hugs your way 🤗 and I am sorry you are going through this. I know exactly how it feels and it's horrible.

The first love of my life of 2.5 years whom I was deeply in love with left me because his parents couldn't handle me being a different culture and straight up told me that he would marry his own culture. I won't sugar coat it but it took me personally a couple of years to stop feeling flutters and agony every time I accidentally bumped into him. I did not handle my breakup that well but when I made the decision to move on he did everything to get me back but I refused as I had already met the true love of my life who I am now married to and have children with.

Sharing my own experience to say that there is light at the end and although it feels like it's impossible you'll ever be happy and in love again, I promise you that it will happen but you need to give yourself time to heal properly. It sounds like he may have been under some pressure but if he didn't think it was worth sticking around then you need to love yourself enough to know what your worth.

Sending lots of love your way x

Thank you both. I hope he finds his way back to me but equally I know I need to heal. I really appreciate the messages x