I want to start by saying that I have helped my DB out an awful lot over the years.
With some quite big emotional support, I didn't mind, he is my brother.
Ive been in a pretty bad mental state for a while. It all came to a head last year when my DF nearly passed away. I think the emotional strain just got to me and I had a breakdown.
My DB moved abroad 7 years ago and I had to beg him to come home to help with the stress of looking after my parents. I literally thought my dad only had a few days left.
During my breakdown he was very good and helped a lot practically and emotionally. He blames my DH for my problems. He is responsible for some but not all and some of my brothers actions over the years hasn't helped.
He does phone my parents a lot and buys them expensive gifts but does not come back for visits . The day to day stuff helping them out is down to me.
Sorry that was long but a bit of backstory needed.
A few months ago I could feel myself spirally down again and was drinking a lot.
He offered for me to stay with him and his partner for a while, it is nice and warm where he is (European country) and said the break would do me good.
I was read the riot act when I got drunk and he rightly said that I wasnt helping myself and I had to sort myself out. My DH can be very emotionally abusive and gaslights me a lot and I admit I was drinking to block everything.
At one point he did say that I do nothing for my parents, but I left it as didn't want to argue.
Ive been here 3 weeks and apart from the first day I haven't had one drink, been walking, eating well and feel much better. I try to keep out of the house as much as I can but have bought shopping and clean and do laundry etc.
Tonight we were having dinner and were joking around. His partner speaks very little English but we do connect and she is lovely.
She made a joke about my brother and we were all laughing.
But every time we looked at each other we could t stop giggling.
My DB got up from the table and into the kitchen. I went up to give him a cuddle and said "I hope we haven't upset you?"
He got really angry and said " Fucking give it up now, just act your fucking age!"
His face was like thunder.
Me and his partner just gave each other a kind of shrug to each other and I've come to my room.
I don't know if I'm overreacting but this has really hurt me. I'm sitting here so upset, but because of my mental state I'm not sure if I'm making a big thing out of it??
It kind of hurts because he moans about how my husband speaks to me and he has just spoken to me horribly.
I have felt that I'm just being tolerated whilst I've been here. He hasn't asked me how I am feeling or talked to me really at all, he speaks to his partner in her native language but doesn't translate. We try and talk to each other using my small language skills and google translate.
The only time he really speaks to me is to tell me how I should be living my life and how to handle my husband.
He used to be a big drinker too and got into all kinds of trouble but his partner doesn't really drink so he doesn't much either.
I don't know if I should say something to him tomorrow or just leave it?
Im going home on Thursday.
Im not sure if im making more of this because of my mental state??
One more thing (im so sorry about the length of this). Because I'm on ads I feel constantly thirsty and he continues to berate me for drinking too much water and for feeling sleepy.