Anyone good with reverse psychology?

[MrsSnape]

This is about the bloke at karate again and my proposed ideas in dealing with him.

(for those that don't know, there is a bloke at my karate club that keeps hitting me very hard, seemingly on purpose when the club is non contact).

Now, assuming that he is doing this to prove that martial arts is too tough for women, assuming he thinks that by hurting me he will "prove" to me that I'm not strong enough for it and will leave.

I have been thinking about this and I have 2 ideas in which I could handle this tonight.

1. Hit him back, hard. Now if I do this would it tell him that yes I am strong enough for martial arts and can be just as much of an arsehole as he can? or will he think he has to hit me even harder to prove he can do it better?

2. do not react to it at all. By this I mean not even batting an eyelid when I'm hit, not mentioning it, not acting as if I've felt a thing. If he is getting off on seeing me hurt this will take away the reaction he seeks...but then will he just hit me harder to get it?

I don't want to go to sensei just yet, I want to try and sort this out on my own. I'm sick of men treating me like shit.

Which one of these should I try out tonight?

I think you should report him to the sensei - haven't seen your other thread. Even if he stops hitting you he may do the same to another woman.

Why do you not want to approach the sensei?.

Show the individual who hits you during class up for what he really is - a bully and a coward. I'd name and shame him to the sensei who will likely be appalled by this man's actions.

You may not be able to sort this problem out on your own hence the above suggestion to talk to the sensei before class.

Its a fallacy that bullies stop if you ignore them. It makes them worse because they think they can get away with it. I think it sounds like he will hit harder and harder till he gets a reaction. Personally I would speak to the sensei.

Or collapse to the ground in "agony", allow an ambulance to be called and then have the f*cker charged with assault.

you don't have to sort this out by yourself. this isn't a personal relationship, it's someone in a class who is abusing you.

please go to the sensei

lol Almummy that made me chuckle thats the sort of thing id probably do then wink at him on way out while filing my nails

i would definatly say something as some people will just keep doing because they can and until they get a reaction or slip and let one foot rise to a place that is very painful for a man

speak out dont suffer in silence trying to deal with him as he will probably continue until you do react and when you snap his won good luck and its nothing personal to you some men are just twats not all of them

Don't let yourself be pulled into playing this man's games. Even if by some miracle this bully gets the message and stops hitting you, what's to stop him from doing the same thing to someone else?

The sensei needs to know what is happening. Apart from the more personal aspect of bullying, which goes against the whole ethos of martial arts, if you or anyone else are injured because of this then the club's insurance may not cover it.

Hit him back hard.