I’ve stopped wanting to tell anyone I was once abused, is this a sign of healing?

[Rainbow03]

Ive noticed that lately I’ve stopped wanting to talk about it. For years afterwards I’d talk and talk about it to everyone, I don’t know why, whether that’s just part of the trauma?

But now I don’t really want to tell people anymore. I do get thoughts like I really wish I’d been more stronger back then but unfortunately I was a victim to an abuser. I just don’t feel like telling anyone anymore. It feels like it was a different person it happened to now and I’m so different. Talking about it makes me feel too vulnerable.

Yes, it could be that you are ready to move on from it. Telling people about it is actually not a good thing to do, as it let's it define you and you will get treated differently by people once they have knowledge, particularly men. The good ones are more likely to become unnecessarily wary of you, and the bad ones will stick around as they are thinking control will be easier with you.
So absolutely, if you've moved on and don't want to be a person who's been abused in everyday life, keep it to yourself and you won't be. Congratulations, it can be a freeing moment when you no longer let it define you.

@Opentooffers I know that I was strong and what I did took a lot of courage but on the outside it definitely defines me in a less appealing way so I’ve learned.