Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Help please. What do I do in my situation

38 replies

Oddoneoutx · 11/03/2024 18:21

im quite laid back, I’m not nosy, don’t interfere In anyone else’s life, I keep myself to myself. I’m very much what will be will be type.

mu partner on the other hand reminds me how intelligent he is. How he knows what people are going to say before they say it.
he will be driving and in the space of 10 minutes will comment on the poor quality of every other driver. Or why someone has chose particular fencing when he would have done different.
he notices absolutely everything. Questions everything. We had a house sold in our street and he wonders what they’re doing, why they wasn’t working on it on a Sunday when they should be “pushing on with it” (he’s never met new owners)
another example. He went to the loo and I placed the remote on the puffee. He asked why I put it there and not next to where he was sat. I just shrugged and he asked again and said he is trying to understand my logic in doing so.
he criticises me a lot and when I answer he says I have an answer for everything and I should just say no problem as he knows what I will say before I say it.
he is so different with his friends and colleagues. (He’s a manager)

why do I get the shit deal.

OP posts:
Catoo · 11/03/2024 19:27

What do you like about him?
Do you live together?
How long have you been tolerating this tedious turd?

HanaJane · 11/03/2024 19:48

He sounds like an arsehole sorry! He's probably going to get worse as he gets older too, can you leave?

Oddoneoutx · 11/03/2024 19:56

Unfortunately I have no savings and no family I can stay with. I am stuck here until I can save enough to move out. I would go tomorrow if I had the money.

OP posts:
Oddoneoutx · 11/03/2024 19:58

I’ve been with him 4 years. When he’s not like this which is 10% of the time he’s lovely. But it’s getting more and more and to the point I just nod shrug or say ok these days to prevent any come back for saying the wrong thing

OP posts:
altmember · 11/03/2024 20:00

So why did you put the remote on the puffee?

puzzledout · 11/03/2024 20:05

ticktickticktickBOOM · 11/03/2024 18:28

There's a name for people like this

arseholes

Harsh

But true!

Gettingonmygoat · 11/03/2024 20:30

" Why do i get this shit deal"? because you allow him to treat you like shit.

Nickinoo22 · 11/03/2024 20:38

TheGreatGherkin · 11/03/2024 18:27

What a twat.

This 💯!

Treacletoots · 11/03/2024 20:44

It's like the cup of tea analogy. Would you drink a cup of tea if it only had a bit of shit in it? Nope.

Don't tolerate shit in your relationship either 😆

Bumblebeeinatree · 11/03/2024 20:45

If he knows everything he already knows why you do what you do so doesn't need to ask or criticise. Nothing you do should surprise or worry him in the slightest, Apart from obviously he doesn't know anything about what or why you do anything (and why should he), he's an idiot who thinks he's the best thing since sliced bread.

Savemydrink · 11/03/2024 21:16

Oooh I would have such fun hiding that remote every single time he went to the toilet. Come to think of it, I might hide other stuff too and see just how pissed off he can get.

He could always use his super powers to find stuff, after all, he knows everything !!!

Savemydrink · 11/03/2024 21:26

Also, next time he criticises the neighbours, say to him “hold on, I will just go and tell them”

then you March across the road, knock on their door and introduce yourself. Tell them you are expecting a parcel and would they mind keeping an eye out, thank them sweetly.

Then March back home and tell him you told them he thinks they should be working in their house on a Sunday. But surprisingly, they said to mind his own bloody business.

Hopefully he will be more careful what he says to you in future

samqueens · 11/03/2024 22:48

Why does he do this?

Lundy Bancroft will tell you if you read his book. It is called Why Does He Do That?

(you can download on kindle app or Apple Books but don’t tell your partner and read it discreetly)

New posts on this thread. Refresh page