W4W relationship question

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My wife and I have been married for 3 years, together for 6. At year 1/4 she tells me she wants to have an open relationship, knowing I am monogamous. I agreed to let her have outside sexual partners when I’m gone (which is about 2 weeks every 4 months or so). Now she says she wants to fall in and out of love with other people but that she’ll always, “choose me” and I’m her, “one true love”. She gets angry when I ask questions about this idea and tells me I’m closed minded. Should I stay or go? Sidenote - I make about 85% of the money so I’m wondering if this has something to do with her wanting to stick around. Also, I’m a lesbian and she is bi but the only people she wants to sleep with are men. What are your thoughts on all this and how I should proceed?

She gets angry when I ask questions about this idea

If she can't have calm, open discussions about this then I wouldn't want to go any further. Without great communication this sounds like a one sided disaster! What do you want OP? How does she respond when you tell her what you want your relationship to look like? It sounds like you are fundamentally not looking for the same kind of relationship dynamic

Sounds very unhealthy. If she really prioritised your relationship, she would show respect for your point of view - or at least listen and try to compromise. You don't want the same thing anyway, so it's one sided with just her having her own way.

Sounds quite manipulative, making sure you give her what she wants. Gets angry with you when you ask questions and tells you you’re closed minded if you don’t want to go along with it.

Well, you have a right to ask questions and that in itself shows you’re open minded. More open minded than I am, as I wouldn’t stay with my husband while he has sex with other women. Not sure it’s about open mindedness, but more about how you want to live - you want a monogamous relationship and she doesn’t.

I would call it a day, if I was in your position. You’ve already bended to her will and now she wants to bend you further, with no compromise on her part.

She gets angry when I ask questions about this idea and tells me I’m closed minded

for this reason you should go. An open relationship has to be 100% agreed by both parties. She's manipulating you.

Absolutely not, you deserve better OP.

Oh god OP please just end the marriage it this is not a good way to live.