I use the word friend broadly here, because we're not really, not any more. But really I just want to know what other people would do in this situation?
So friend, lets call her Jo, and I met about 15 years ago when we were late teens/early 20s. She was teaching a class of a very niche hobby, think a martial art. But very uncommon, only a few teachers in the UK outside of London, very close knit community. I took the class, found that I was quite good at it, got fast tracked to several competitions etc, really hit it off with Jo. We became quite close, hanging out a lot outside of hobby.
Somehow, the friendship soured. Nothing too specific, but Jo became very domineering, almost bullying of me. I pulled back a little but stayed in contac),t because this hobby is very important to me. There is nowhere else I can go to practice it. However, things have cine to a head now, and she's made some very snide comments about my kids (comparing them unfavourably to hers), and I am angry. If she was only a friend I would immediately end the friendship. But this hobby is very important to me, it's the one thing I have outside of being a mother that makes me feel like me. Great for my physical and mental health, and there are still competitions I do. A break with Jo would meet I was out of this community.
What would you do?