Is this physically abuse?

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When your partner pretends they are going to hit you during an argument but doesn't do it . Also if this has happened a handful of times

Yes

Yes =threatening you is abusive, doesn’t matter if you want to call it mental or physical, it’s abusive

Yes! The fact you’re asking strangers for confirmation, means you know it too.

Yes I do . I am only asking because my partner is telling me to stop claiming I am being abused . He never hit me .so I just don't know how I say i am being physically abused without actually been hit

Yes I do . I am only asking because my partner is telling me to stop claiming I am being abused . He never hit me .so I just don't know how I say i am being physically abused without actually been hit

Yes. It's also common assault, which includes behaving in a way that gives the other person reason to believe physical violence is imminent.

A definition from the Crown Prosecution Service website states:
"Assault can be committed by an act indicating an intention to use unlawful violence against the person of another."

In any case, they're using threatening behaviour to scare and intimidate you. It's 100% abusive and it's 100% unacceptable.

Absolutely it is abuse and the Police would consider it to be a criminal act. Of course the man abusing you is minimising this. Please report it and if not already find yourself a place of safety.

My dad told me I wasn't being abused because my ex never hit me.

Chose to completely ignore the other stuff, the coersion, the intimidation, the financial abuse, the emotional tip-toeing I was doing.

You are being abused - just because he doesn't carry out the THREAT to HIT you doesn't mean it's ok.

And, eventually, he WILL hit you. He will lose control and hit you.

You need to ltb.

"I never hit you" is straight out of the abuser's handbook. A non-abusive partner doesn't need to justify their behaviour by comparing it to "worse" abusive behaviour. Although emotional and psychological abuse can be just as horrific and damaging, and in some cases more so, as physical abuse.

Abuse is much more than physical violence. Threats of violence, as well as coercive control, are both criminal acts as they're both abusive.

In my jurisdiction assault is putting someone in fear of being struck. Yes it it abusive.

OP, your partner is going to tell and try to convince you the sky is pink if that suits him.

Thank you for the responses . I'll make sure to report it again if it happens as I never thought the police will take me seriously if I haven't been hit . I am currently in safe place and have been away from him for a few months. He is trying to ' work things out " with me but I am in fear of him loosing control one day . I don't feel safe around him . I have been trying to end things with him via texts but he doesn't get the message and has been forcing the relationship since

What he is doing is common assault: "Common assault is when a person inflicts violence on someone else or makes them think they are going to be attacked. It does not have to involve physical violence. Threatening words or a raised fist is enough for the crime to have been committed provided the victim thinks that they are about to be attacked."

You have no obligation to respond to those texts OP.

I'm so sorry that he has frightened you to the point of not realising that.

@AsMyGranWouldSay I don't feel obligated but he will call and text my constantly until I respond then because I'm so sick of it I'll just go along with it

Block him.

@SignoraVolpe I have but finds ways to message me and claims to me messaging me regarding the kids but really is only using the kids as an excuse .
It's very hard . I've tried to explain to my family how I believe I am being abused but since I am not being hit and don't have any evidence I feel like the boy who cried wolf

Can you use one of the court authorised messaging apps for contact about the kids. Then block him on messenger, WhatsApp and text. Then the only communication between you can be clearly seen by everyone if necessary. You do not need to have any other contact with him. Not being hit is not the benchmark for staying in a relationship and if your family do not understand that then they do not have your best interests at heart.