Mothers Day Anxiety

[Dobetter]

Finding this Mother’s Day really difficult. I don’t have any contact with my mum as she re married and rarely had any interest in me and her only grandchild. It got to a point where I had to make a decision to just concentrate on me and my DD as it was really affecting me mentally. She’s made me a card as she doesn’t see her dad and we have no other extended family, it was really lovely and I am so grateful for her.

I usually get on with it day to day, rarely thinking about it anymore and expected today to be particularly hard.

I don’t want advice on how to fix it - I’m just writing on here as I feel very alone. It would be nice to know I’m not the only one…

fix what?

your rel with your mother? well ball is in her court surely?

when your own mother starts to seriously impact your mental health Op… it’s a sign that no contact is probably for the best!

Yes I totally agree which is why I made the decision to leave her to it. I just think today, and all the other holidays which are so hyped up by the media, make it seem like I’m alone.. it’s just a bad day not a bad life I guess. Roll on tomorrow x

Ignore the hype - it is just that. Look at what it does to so many people on here (complaints about everything and everyone on 'their' MD).

My Mum died a few years ago and I found the card displays etc in the supermarkets very hard to cope with. Now I just ignore it all! My own children are adults with their own lives - yesterday I received cards, flowers and gifts in the post from them and today a quick text exchange. The rest of the day has been normal.

I'm glad your DD gave you a card and hopefully some lovely cuddles. For next year maybe you could bake a cake together in the morning and then have a tea party, play your favourite music and enjoy your mother daughter time. And remember that your daughter loves you every day, not just one day a year...

I hope you had a lovely Mothers Day. It's a hard day for many and can often be easier just to opt out of it and relax at home for lovely cuddles with DD. It's a day with too much pressure around it and I hope you'll find comfort on other Mothers Days going forward x