Being secretly filmed

[Grenvillehome]

I took my family to see my partners house when we were in the area. He knew I was popping in to show them the new house but didn’t realise he filmed us and listened to our conversations.
I actually felt sick when he said he watched the footage after we left. He doesn’t seem to think it is an issue. I really don’t want to go back there on my own or with my family.
He believes that it is his house so is entitled to protect it with cameras and can watch the footage at any time. Surely he should at least tell people they are being filmed when they visit. Am being overly sensitive and AITA.

I believed the camera was off. One of my family pointed at it and I actually told them not to worry it is only on when we are not here. It usually has a light to show it is on.

Is he planning on filming the people he rents it out to?

Run. And scary he will tape the future occupants if it's hired out. Borderline criminal stuff

You both hoped your family would use it as a holiday home for mid week breaks? As in to make money from them? But it's your partners house, not yours. It all sounds really odd.

Regarding the filming and watching back, nope I'd be off.

So he deliberately hid the light so you would not know he was filming you? That feels borderline criminal to me, certainly unacceptable and creepy.

You can't trust him any more.

Oh my. This is a rental. ? I thought this was his personal home (I thought it was odd she was showing her parents her parters home-makes more sense.

From reading more of the comments you both give me the ick.

If it is a holiday house, this begs the question, is it rented out by non-family members e.g. as an Airbnb? And if so are these guests being filmed as well? if so that is doubly not on.

Not a crime, but I understand why you felt sick. You are not overly sensitive, it's creepy and weird. I would be re-evaluating the relationship.

This is so odd.

Not for renting out. For all our family, his and mine to use for breaks and holidays when we are not using it.

So will he be filming when other people are In the house? That's wierd asf, why would you need internal cameras the only. Reason I can think of is if you have a babysitter/nanny or something. To think of him sat there secretly watching you and your parents go round the house and listening to what you're saying is gross. He wasn't even going to tell you it was only the fact he tripped himself up. In the words of dragons den, I'd be out.

Lol, I think once family are aware, maybe they will think twice about staying there - unless it's easy to cover and muffle the camera.

Sounds like a controller, get rid of him now. This is really creepy.
Where in the house does he have cameras, bedrooms, bathroom????

Still the same concept though! Filming guests?

@mnahmnah

The constant minimizing is interesting to me. She is fully aware of the cameras. Doesn't seem like she was going to offer that info up to her parents and then is appalled when her husband goes over the footage when she is there.....??? This all just seems strange.

Does he film people who stay at the holiday home too??

How fucking weird and creepy.

Filming people in the living of a holiday home that he lets family stay in. That’s awful. I would think nothing of nipping into the living room half dressed.

He obviously watches it for more reasons than a robbery or disturbance. That is really grim tbh. How many people might pop into the living room in their pants post shower to grab something? If it’s a woman and her dh there he could be watching what they are doing.

If you thought it lit up when filming does this mean he has been lying about it lighting up or has he changed the camera without telling you?

I would want to know what else he has watched in secret. So I would have a laugh about it as if you aren’t bothered at all and ask him what funny stuff he has seen on it. I’d play along and then see what he says. Bet it’s not the first time. Grim and creepy.

No reason to have a canara in the house. Outside the house sure. But inside...he's a creepy fucker. And if there aren't other cameras you don't know about already, he is still setting you up to gaslight you into the idea that they are 'needed'. If he ever been alone in my home I'd be doing a sweep for hidden cameras too. You can even buy plug sockets and clocks ect...with these things in them now adays.

He has cameras around spying on his guests. I wonder where else he has cameras or recorders. Op run he sounds like a weirdo.

Have you dumped him yet?

What a controlling weirdo.

I reckon this is just a tip of the iceberg with him.

If it’s only left running when people aren’t there and you are fine with that, you must have realised it was on. Because before you arrived no one was there.

It’s weird that he watched the whole thing back though. I wouldn’t assume it’s switched off, ever.

I would dump him though tbf.

In light of you now clarifying that it's a holiday home which is sometimes left empty and that he has 1 internal camera (which you know about) pointing at an area of the house a potential intruder would have to pass through to access the rest of the house etc and the camera is left on only when the house is unoccupied, I wouldn't say you were being "secretly filmed" by him. He admitted to watching the footage and he commented on it: that's the weird bit.

I have a camera solely for the purpose of seeing who's at my door or who's accessing my garden. I wouldn't dream of commenting to my neighbours who occasionally pass in front of it that I'd seen them outside my house at such a time doing xyz. That would be creepy and intrusive. I only check footage where it's people I don't know. Likewise, I'm aware my neighbours have cameras and that I will be in view on them quite frequently but would find it off-putting if they started commenting about my movements to and fro.

Creepy IMO, and enough to break a relationship for me.
I have in-laws who on occasion I have to go feed the cat. They have cameras in about half the rooms in the house, plus of course a few cameras outside. All with microphones. I know they are there, and am only there feeding and petting the cat or feeding chickens for a few minutes, but it is enough to make me feel really, really uncomfortable. I even do not like being around for a cuppa or meal these days - because the cameras just roll. From the moment you arrive on the street outside they are recording...
I find the culture of cameras IN the house as really, really odd and freaky.