Can you tell your partner you don't like them..

[mumtobbk]

Can you tell your partner you 'don't like them right now' when they are being awful towards you?

You can do whatever you like but why? Any context to this?

If you say ‘right now’ I guess it’s okay, but probably better to say ‘I don’t like the way you’re behaving right now’ rather than that you don’t like them as a person full stop if you don’t want to risk causing offence.

2 weeks after the baby is born and my partner is being awful - and attacking verbally telling me I 'hurt the baby' repeatedly after I was doing skin to skin with him ... telling me I'm the only one that gets stressed in the house and he's so scared of me being stressed that he hides in the bedroom and then also weaponising a card my first son wrote to me for Mother's Day which said 'I love tou i hope you have a wonderful day because sometimes you have a bad one' saying its proof of how me being stressed affects everyone'..

i promise have been so calm... i love being a mum so much - especially having a newborn who has been so easy'

i think hes saying it in retaliation as i said i thought it stressed him out when i did skin to skin with the baby.. so then he started on the attack..

i honestly have been so calm - when i start to get stressed is when he starts attacking and wont stop when i ask him

Life changes so much with a new born, regardless of how many you have.

Rather than tell him you do not like him, are you able to have a moment together and have an open discussion, without attacking each other on a personal level, and be kind towards one another?

Does your OH have these tendencies to say things like this to you?

Thankyou @HopeFloatsAbove

Yes he does... I explain to him and he starts attacking again.

He apologises after but the problem is he wants me to be fine with him again straight away but his comments really hurt me.. and if I'm not fine again straight away he starts attacking again

He sounds like an abusive gaslighting twat.

It’s very common for men to start being abusive once their partner has a baby … easy target when your hormones are all over the place, haven’t slept in days and feel on the floor anyway! And he is gaslighting you!
i don’t think it will help telling him as seems he doesn’t care but do tell your health visitor / midwife / gp/ trusted friend / family x