So many posts over the last few days, and now sadly today.
im a mum to 3 adult children 3 in-laws and 3 grandchildren 😀 ( only just connected that 😂)
my daughter and partner will be coming for lunch today, she asked last week and I’m thrilled she wants to. They are going on to other mum for tea, they don’t have children buts this changes next year.
my eldest son and partner, I’m not expecting to see, her parents have been away for 3 weeks and I should imagine they will go see them today, and spend the rest of the day at home with their baby. That’s fine, I see them most weeks, and I’m sure he will contact me at some point, and I wouldn’t be surprised if daughter brings a present he’s arranged with her.
youngest son, lives 2 hours away, and they have 2 small children I should imagine they might pop in and see her mum for a while, but I wouldn’t put money on it. They will probably be spending a nice day doing their own thing. I will definitely get a FaceTime later today, but then I do most Sundays 😂, I’m not expecting presents, money is tight and I’ve told them enough times over the years I would rather they spent it on themselves, a phone call is more then enough.
when my mum was alive I would pop into see her, but she died before we had children so that’s different, but my MIL was a nightmare. We use to pop in to see my mum but then have to go to hers for dinner, my mum was ok with that , I had siblings that spoiled her but I was always resentful. The years between loosing mum and mil where horrible, she was a widow and would expect to come for the weekend the whole day was about her. One year she opened her presents then when I was given some flowers she was surprised made some comments about me sharing her day ! DH said I was being sensitive but I wasn’t 🥹. I put up with this fir years, and I shouldn’t, I should have stuck up for myself, not stopped DH from seeing his mum, but have spoken out about having her take over the day.
what I’m trying to say is, well I’m not sure, I know what I want to say.
basically, it’s Mother’s Day, not grandma day or in-law day, it’s Mother’s Day. So this need to involve grandchild is silly, to have to spend time with in-laws is wrong. Mother’s Day is to acknowledge what our mothers do for us, so if your mum is hands on you cannot manage with out spoil her, if she’s your mum, a card / chocolate will do. It’s mums with young children, or mums who dedicate time and love and effort for their children who need spoiling today. I love my children and I do so much for them because I love them, and nothing makes me happier than to see them happy, so to have a FaceTime today from my son and hearing about the wonderful day my DIL and grandchildren have had is enough for me, and in my opinion is all that’s needed.
if you’ve managed to read this far 😱, have a wonderful Mother’s Day, let your children spoil you, tell your mothers you love them, give your partners time to tell their mums they love them, and enjoy whatever the day brings 💐