Thoughts please?

[Ash2345f]

I went on a first date at the beginning of this week it went really well, he rang me straight after it finished and has been in constant communication since. We organised to go out today a couple of days ago, I messaged him yesterday to see if he had organised the date we had planned which was agreed and he said he hadn’t. Were both busy professionals so I didn’t think much of this. There has however been no further mention from him last night about going out today, I think he’s went a bit cold. Do I leave it to him today to bring it up as to whether we are going out this evening or not? It’s just so frustrating waiting around when i could make alternative plans. Am I overthinking this, I tend to do this because of my terrible previous dating experiences so sometimes I need to chill a little!

I’d probably text him today to ask if we were still meeting up, but I’d kinda expect not to hear back and if no reply in a couple of hours then I’d make my own plans.

I would defo leave it now he said he hadn’t organised anything so don’t beg it and pump his ego next please 🤣

I'd leave it, if he really wanted to, he would of planned today but yesterday he said he hadn't and no further mention of meeting up. Unless he gets in touch this morning to confirm plans, I'd say it's off and bin him, if he's going to be unreliable.

Ffsss it’s so bloody frustrating when men do this, I don’t get why they are so hot and cold. Maybe a better option came up never mind! I’ll leave it he’s messaged me this morning saying he’s at the gym but no mention of tonight I’ve replied politely see what happens next! Thanks ladies

Don’t text, do something else.
First of all, he’s not leaving tomorrow for Antarctica, so it’s not the last opportunity you have, take the pressure off yourself

Teach him to be a better planner and that your time is worth it.
But you don’t call, or spell it out, it’s not the way that works.
the way that works is by being busy and not contacting him.
he doesn’t contact you, a bit rude, flagged
he contacts you last minute, it’s great to hear from him but you just got invited 30 mins ago to something else and you hadn’t heard from him and you weren’t sure you can’t do today anymore, you deliver that upbeat, not a shade of complaint in your tone, just a busy happy girl who doesn’t have the time for all the great things in her life
if he’s a good guy, he ll understand, be gracious about it and will probably set up a real date for another day
if he starts rumbling and complain, you know you have a bad one, flagged
That’s how you raise the bar. much more effective than explanations, speeches or rules.

Go happily watch a box set or do something else, don’t text, don’t be free later, this Sunday, either a good guy is learning to step up his game with you or an idiot is taking himself to the trash.

You’re absolutely correct! I’ll just get on with my day and let it go! Whatever his actions are today will undoubtedly decide whether I want to waste my time on this man moving forward :)

Absolutely don’t get in tough again if he doesn’t you know good luck

What was the date you'd planned?

I also would not message again. I've had this happen even on a first date. Date and time all arranged and then no contact close to the day so I just forget it. Some people want to be chased. You've already asked him if he;s arranged it so he can't accuse you of not being bothered.