Married 12 years, together about 16/17 years. One DC aged 10. Both work full time. I have a hybrid/flexible role, he doesn’t, needs to attend workplace. I’ve always done the grunt work, nursery thought that I was a single parent, DH when needed will do a drop off/pick up, always need planning, some of my dates/meetings are non negotiable, has to happen. Obviously he goes out after work a lot without any arrangements.
i used to earn a bit less than him, now I earn more than double. We were very sociable together, since having child it’s been an issue, he goes out a lot. Regularly I’m home with dc alone, most Fridays Saturdays I’m here, he’s in the pub with bloke mates. I’m seething, not a single one of my peers are sat at home whilst their DH are on the piss, he went to watch the second half of the rugby, only just stumbled in. We had dinner plans as a family ffs.
what would divorce look like? Do we have to split everything 50/50? I would massively lose out. I’m pissed off, what’s wrong with me that I don’t seem to qualify for a husband who is part of the family?