A "friend"one...

[GiddyHam]

Not heard from my friend for over a month now, will add I've not made contact either. Back story he has embarked on a further education course and has a new outlook on life and a new group of friends that obviously don't fit into anymore. I'm not that fussed if I'm honest but I'm dreading a "showdown" if we bump into each other eg why are we not talking with lengthy explanations on both sides. This has happened before . Can it just fizzle with no confrontation... hoping so. We've been friends 10 years +

Why would there be a showdown? Also, can you not just text and say hi? Unless you don’t like them anymore, then just leave it.

It's not that I don't like them I just can't be arsed with them dipping in and out whenever they feel like it. Last time this happened it resulted in a lengthy convo with lots of analysis and "you said, I said" which is what I want to avoid

I’d have thought it’s more than possible to not be in touch with a friend for a month when they are busy or you are. And for it not to result in a showdown. Are you both quite young?

25. We would be in contact daily by text etc so this seems a long time to be not in contact

Sounds like the friendship has run its course/drifted. His life has changed. Yours hasn't. No need for a showdown unless you want to come across as entitled and sulking because you're not first and foremost in his thoughts. If you bump into each other, just ask how he's doing and maybe suggest a catch up coffee.

Oh, and if you're not bothered, you wouldn't be posting on here about it.

How many female friends haven't you heard from for a while and are this bothered about?