How do you stop a marriage from growing apart?

[Noca]

This is making me so sad even thinking this and the thought of being without him. I really hope it’s not too late but I just don’t even know where to start with turning things around

We’ve been together 7 years in total and married for 18 months. Things have been so stressful and hectic for the last few years. I nearly died before our wedding, my dad had a severe stroke so we do a lot for him and my mum, his parents have gone through an awful divorce where they kept dragging us into the middle of it and trying to use us as weapons, and he was diagnosed with a serious heart condition recently and has had to change his whole lifestyle which has really stressed him out even more

I can feel that we are just slowly growing apart and we don’t cherish each other as much as we used to. We definitely both take each other for granted, and I’m just as guilty in this as he is. Life has just been so hard that it’s been a struggle to keep going and face each day and we’ve both just focussed on ourselves too much without taking care of the other. Has anyone managed to turn it around and get the spark back in this kind of situation?

I think you’ve both had a lot going on but you have come to realise your growing apart and not appreciating each other so start to change things… try to talk, grab his hand, cuddle on the sofa be emotionally and physically intimate. If you’ve noticed you are growing apart chances are he has too .. talk to him if you feel you have to and tell him your fears for your relationship. Talking as someone that’s been through divorce and I learnt so much that has shaped my relationship with my DP of 4 years.. I say sorry with I make mistakes, make up quickly and we always try and make each other hsppy. Sometimes seeing your partner try to make you happy is enough - it shows you are seen! Good luck I really hope life settles down for you both and wish you well xx