Be careful what you wish for!

[LilacHare]

Me and my boyfriend met 6 years ago while on an internet site while we were both married! We just clicked and fell in love! I divorced my husband 2 years ago and although it has taken him a while he has now left his wife and moved in with me and my kids. The trouble is everything has now changed! He spends very little time with me, moans about everything and is so miserable! Perhaps I never saw the real him the odd occasions we would meet? It has only been 6 weeks but I am thinking I have made a big mistake or do I try and be more tolerant? Help!

Did you meet on a dating site?
You said "on the odd occasions you met" so how well did you actually know him before you .over him into your children's home.

i'm really hoping this is my ex' s new woman writing this
it' s making me smile

You do realise that terminating every sentence you write with an exclamation mark makes it sound like you’re implying this is somehow funny and lighthearted?

Guys, guess what? I cheated on my husband!
I moved a guy I hardly know in with my children whose lives I’ve exploded!
Turns out it’s a bit shit!
I know, right, what am I like!!!!!

Tell him to leave. I can’t think of a less hilarious situation for your poor kids.

Perhaps I never saw the real him the odd occasions we would meet?
How many times did you meet in those six years.
How many times did your children meet him in those six years?

You can leave a relationship at any time, for any reason. If it doesn't feel good any more then tell him.

Not to mention a surfeit of exclamation marks.

I'd move him right back out again!

Its called karma

I wonder which dating site he’s on now

All sounds a crazy plan to me, what could go wrong ?😂

AND it's not the fairytale you want
What in the world was you expecting

Not buying it.
But if its true…. Karma’s a bitch. My sympathy is with your poor kids, ex husband and his exwife.

This, in spades. You deserve each other and deserve to be miserable.

I'm not sure why my comment was deleted by @MNHQ but I stand by what I said. The trauma, the life changing nightmare that is inflicted after affairs. I ended up with PTSD. My life will never be the same again and I will never ever have another relationship because I couldn't risk going through that again. The trauma suffered by my children which has never gone away. The life ruining financial impact. I find the OP's post offensive, all her silly exclamation marks and total lack of self awareness and lack of empathy for the other parties involved. So again, I have no sympathy for her bleating about the grass not being greener. Tough. You made your bed!