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DP just began smoking

34 replies

Rockiepride · 08/03/2024 22:36

Name change for this as long time MN but totally thrown by this.

DP (35M) works a very male
oriented job and is away most weeks, he’s just come home for the weekend and announced he’s started smoking?! He bought a packet of cigarettes this week and has been having 1 or 2 a day when some of the other ‘boys’ go out to smoke. I don’t smoke, each to their own but not my thing, I hate the smell and don’t get it, but don’t judge anyone who does.

For context, he’s in the gym every day, has a serious but strength related job. He’s very health conscious and this has just thrown me? He hates drugs and is not a big drinker, what is going on?

OP posts:
Scaffoldingisugly · 09/03/2024 11:37

Tell him you want to relive your youth and get a spice girl's outfit.. Wear it when his family visit and tell them why..

softsummerrain · 09/03/2024 11:37

Do you think he might have just chosen now to tell you he smokes? Rather than he's just taken up the habit?

ClutchingOurBananas · 09/03/2024 20:08

TheIceQween · 09/03/2024 11:36

Pretty gross, tell him you’ll compromise, then buy him a vape.

Why?

I wouldn’t want to be married to a vaper either. there’s no need to compromise about this shit.

AfterTheWatershed · 09/03/2024 21:09

I’m really surprised to read this, I was just thinking the other day that I hardly know anyone that smokes traditional cigarettes these days. I know a couple of people in their 50/60s, all the other ‘smokers’ are now on vapes. When I think back to my childhood it seems that every other person smoked.

kkloo · 09/03/2024 21:10

ClutchingOurBananas · 09/03/2024 20:08

Why?

I wouldn’t want to be married to a vaper either. there’s no need to compromise about this shit.

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He doesn't have to come to a compromise with her either though does he?

TookTheBook · 09/03/2024 21:26

AmazingBouncingFerret · 09/03/2024 11:22

£15 a packet. Literally burning it away.

It’s an enormous waste of money.

Is this how much they are now 🤯 jeez I remember as a teen when they reached a fiver a pack it felt outrageous. Now I can't think of anything less cool.

Who is he hanging around with OP? Doesn't everyone vape nowadays?

Thelnebriati · 09/03/2024 21:57

He's given in to peer pressure to do something that would normally be against his ethics? I'd be concerned about him getting sucked into some scam or other, like cryptocurrency.

Cas112 · 10/03/2024 09:52

Probably done it for a while and only just got the courage to tell you

LaunchingTeabag · 10/03/2024 09:57

My ex did this in his mid thirties. It was the start of what I can only describe as a mid-life crisis.

After the smoking started, it was soon followed by an increase in drinking and staying out late and then a tattoo.

All massively off-putting and the reason he's now an ex.

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