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Am I wrong?

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Dc19992421 · 07/03/2024 19:31

I’m a twenty six year old female That was with a male age twenty four, for the last two years. When we got together, he was the best to me. We soon established boundaries, we faught like hell, he’d walk out on me and come back. After a few months, it changed. I never got a birthday card or a date, I never experienced a valentines or Christmas. I was just the one constantly giving as he never had money due to a gambling addiction. He broke up with me last summer. For drink and cocaine. Every week, he’d be coming back on his come down to just go back. He was going out every week, I went out twice and I was getting emails being the worst in the word. He was on tinder and everything. He played me some more for a few months. Leaving me on a Thursday for the weekend ahead. Around Christmas we decided to give things a propper go. I helped him find a fitness coach to get things going, I was doing the food shops, I was prepping his food .And it became clear to me that people didn’t know we were back together. He accepted a follow request from a new eighteenyear old girl at work (we work in the same hotel, different departments) but didn’t even have me on his socials added back? But claims him and the girl didn’t even speak. And he didn’t want people at work knowing about me to keep it private.I pulled him up on it about her. About why he stays so late when she’s on, why he gets his hair cut three times a week(when she’s working), why he doesn’t text me back when he’s working with her. Why he never leaves his phone around me, even though I don’t know the password. he accused me of being a manipulator. Blocked me and left me again.My heart is geuinley broke as I feel like I’m in the same situation as I was in during the summer which consisted of a waiting game for me. Has anyone been through similar?
How can I move on? I just feel so lost and like this is my fault

OP posts:
LimoncelloSpritz · 07/03/2024 19:33

Tell him to fuck off and move on with your life.

StopTheBusINeedAWeeWeeAWeeWeeBagOChips · 07/03/2024 19:34

Don't cling onto a mistake just because you spent a long time making it.

Life is too short for this shit.

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 07/03/2024 19:35

Jesus OP, in the kindest possible way, have you actually read what you have written? This man is utterly vile, doesn't give a shit about you and treats you like dirt. You really need to do some work on your self esteem, with professional help if possible, it's so sad that you genuinely think this was a relationship and that he is someone to miss. You are nothing to him.

B1rd · 07/03/2024 23:31

You are so lucky to escape this.
I imagine that therapy isn't on your list of things to do. But repeat. I am worthy of men who treat me with respect and love. Don't ever forget what I typed. You deserve this.

Opentooffers · 07/03/2024 23:43

Great, so why did you not leave him after the few months of bliss were over at the start. You have one major flaw, that is putting up with the list of problems he brings. Accept him back and expect more of the same. He does it all, because you forgive it all, no other reason.

SleepPrettyDarling · 07/03/2024 23:49

The greatest thing about your post is that you are 26 and have at least 50 more years to spend with a person or persons who is much nicer than this dickhead. Cut your losses!

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