Hi All, first time posting here. I am a married man of nearly 10 years, been together for 11. Have 3 children together and have always been best friends as well as partners. Been through so much, if we wrote a book, you would not believe it to be true. My youngest is on the ASD spectrum as well so can be quite stressful.
Recently, we have been going through a lot. We became victims of the Variable mortgage rate and struggled to get a new one, causing a lot of stress. Everything we have worked for, nearly went down the drain. My brother in law, who is estranged from the family, along with his wife and daughter, decided to threaten me and my kids at the school. They threw bricks and wine bottles at our house scaring my eldest child into basically shock. My mother in law, who lives next door stopped talking to us randomly. Affected my wife a lot but still was me who had to pick up the pieces. I was also then threatened by my mother in laws best friends family. Literally, not done a thing wrong to anyone other than stand by my wife. Recently, I have basically just given in to the stress of the previous 6 months and have been drifting through life, on auto pilot almost. I work from home everyday, my wife works 3 days in the office and 2 at home so gets to see the world as she is out and about vising clients etc. Whilst the only human interaction i get, is on the school run. She has time to escape from the stresses, i dont. She doesnt understand why i get stressed. Too much time to think and go over stuff.
I havent been myself recently, i know this. I will always hold my hands up if im in the wrong, however, i do believe i have been stressed/depressed. Again, i have apologised. However, my wife think's its because I am involved with another woman. Whether it be texting, speaking to or actively having physical relationships with other women. I havent. Ever in the 11 years we've been together. I'm not interested, I love my crew. But she cant get it out of her head that i've been unfaithful. No matter what i say or do, she doesnt believe it. Its heartbreaking because i cant prove i havent done anything as there is nothing to disprove. I have told her she is welcome to my work and personal email and my phone. I dont have social media so cant give her that. She doesnt want to look. I dont know what else i can do and its killing me but i cant stay with someone who is constantly trying to prove her theory 'all men are the same' correct. Im broken