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It's all my fault somehow...

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Itsalmostchristmasagain · 06/03/2024 23:18

Husband of 13 years - pushed me into promotion - no intention / desire of his own to move upwards...
I now have a big commute daily - which to be honest wiped out my pay rise, but a good role that I enjoy. We are both full time, but he does shifts which means I'm often alone with the kids at the weekend. This is fine with me - and things seem to go smoother when I'm on my own.
He's always arguing about money - drives me insane! Tonight he announced that he now has a CCJ against his name and that this is my fault?? Somehow he interprets the rise of cost of living as directly down to me?
When I asked him for me more info he told me that it came through a couple of months ago, but he didn't tell me! He actually paid a company online (£15) to send a letter to his old contract mobile provider - rather than just speaking to them to end his contract - subsequently this has rolled on and on and now a bloody CCJ!
I refused to get involved as all he had to make was a simple call!
So, now he has received numerous letters / warnings and has just ignored them in the hope they would go away- only a small amount was outstanding! 🙈 He would go wild if I had done this??
I am so drained by him - despite being at work ten hours today - tonight I sat upstairs alone when I came in - as i didn't feel welcome.

He doesn't seem to care if the children overhear him - just as long as he gets his point across.
I'm feeling so lost right now. Who is this man???

OP posts:
DustyLee123 · 07/03/2024 07:07

Why do you stay ? Such negativity in your life.

determinedtomakethiswork · 07/03/2024 07:44

Move yourself on the children nearer to your job and get away from this complete idiot. If he thinks you can make that journey every day then he can make it for contact.

Naunet · 07/03/2024 09:59

Well he’s pathetic and unreasonable and is setting a horrible environment for your kids to grow up in. I would guess he’s not the type to acknowledge his flaws or get some therapy?

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