please help

[durtina]

Does he love me?

Being seeing this guy for the past 4 months now. But I'm not sure if he is serious about me. He is older than me and has been 2 long term relationship before meeting me. He has a child with the first lady and also with his second partner. His second partner lives very close to him. He is very responsible when it comes to taking care of his children.

The problem comes in when his second ex call him every morning to discuss the same thing ?What time will he take his daughter to school?. Is this normal? As he told me they are not involved (He has been single for 1 year). Then she sends him texts and if he needs help he calls her. She even still does his ironing. He is responsible for her bills etc. Calls her on the phone when we are shopping to ask if she needs anything.

Is it me or is he still in love with her? Help please. He keeps telling me there is nothing between the 2 of them. Should I trust this and say he is a very kind man???

Has he told you he loves you? Have you had a discussion about your relationship becoming serious? Does he behave as though he loves you ie is he kind and respectful and affectionate with you most of the time? (No one is wonderful all the time and everyone is entitled to be a bit grumpy now and again)
He has and will have relationships with the mothers of his children: unless he and they have fallen out really badly they will always be a part of each other's lives because they are co-parents to their children.
If he has told you that he loves you, wants to be with you and intends to be in a monogamous relationship with you but still be on friendly co-parent terms with his children's other co-parents, then you will have to accept that. Keeping on at him about it will not do you any good.

durtina, are you my ex's new girlfriend??!!

just kidding, but I have a child with my ex and probably speak to him almost as much as when we were together. We were always a texty, chatty couple and, even though we have been through crap, we still have a lot to say to each other, mostly related to our dd.

I think it's a positive thing tthat your bloke is actively involved in helping the mother of his child (tho at her doing his ironing but that's a feminist issue...)

I know nothing about my ex's private life, and don't want to, but I do care very much about his continued involvement with his child and at the moment that has to include me.