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My boyfriend of a month went on a work course and stayed at a hotel, however the girl who worked in the restaurant & delivered his room service gave her number to him. And he messaged her I couldn’t see much as she asked for his Snapchat & they spoke on there. I asked him what it was about etc and he said it was general conversation like what he was doing there etc, where the shopping centre was. Anyway more to the point I’m worried is this a suspicious thing? I’m new to a relationship I don’t want to be overreacting if I don’t need to be, I even asked him to show me Snapchat which he did. But like what if he slept with her? Or what if she stayed in his room or went actually into his room? He says none of that happened. How likely is it that hotel workers hook up with guests?

how old are you OP?

is this your first ever boyfriend?

I’m 19 his 20 yes this is

That's enough alone to bin him, why wonder if they actually hooked up, it doesn't matter, he's not into you when he pursuing other women.

Your antennae is up which has lead to mistrust. It’ll be hard to get that back.

Think carefully about this boyfriend. He should have had the maturity and integrity to tell the hotel girl her behaviour was unprofessional and not connected with her at all.

There’s more to his explanation than meets the eye OP.

Take care of your emotional self and don’t put up with activities which don’t make sense to you, dished out by boyfriends. Start as you mean to go on.

Bin him.
The type of behaviour you allow/tolerate now will follow you into adulthood. You are young. Set the boundaries, know your self worth and move on.

bin him off

he should’ve replied ‘sorry, i’ve got a girlfriend’ and not even taken her number.

how did you find out?

Absolutely this.

Sorry OP but I think there’s probably more to this than he’s letting on.

I have just messaged the girl myself

WHY?!

you’re going to upset yourself and it makes you look a bit mental.

she owes you no loyalty, the person that did however was your boyfriend.

Why would you message the girl yourself? Im curious how you even knew they had each other's numbers, and how you've figured out who she is?
If your boyfriend is messaging other girls one month in, you need a new boyfriend.

I saw it on his phone, when he was messaging someone and I said who is that. And he told me what she was called.

He’s the problem, not her.

Really wrong move OP. Hes the problem not this girl.

All you’ve done is made yourself look like a jealous stalker

Well she’s replied saying he never said anything that implied he didn’t have a girlfriend

But he never actually said he did have a girlfriend?

Your instinct has been alerted that there is something wrong with this. Learn to trust it.
From a world weary, nearly 50 year old that has been around the block and back, I can assure you that there is nothing okay about this. He is taking the piss, don't let men treat you like this. Throw him back, there's plenty more fish in the sea. All the best.

I’m in my 50s and not only do I enjoy a lot of holidays but I have also regularly stayed in hotels for work for the last thirty years. And I have never swapped numbers with the person that delivered my room service. Never exchanged more than pleasantries. So that sounds odd.

But please, do not get into the habit of messaging women than you think your “boyfriend” has come into contact with. This is really not ok and you need to stop that.

It's been a month, this isn't a serious relationship just block him and move on.