Partner is a pathological liar

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My partner is a scary scary liar. I didn’t realise the severity of it until recently. He will lie about the most stupid pointless things ever. It’s genuinely terrifying. He makes me feel insane at times. He lies about things that he doesn’t need to lie about. He lies about things I have proof of. It’s seriously concerning. I’m starting to think he has a mental health problem because this isn’t normal. Would you leave? I think I’m going to. There’s no trust no more.

He’s either mentally ill, gaslighting you on purpose or both. Either way it doesn’t matter why, what matters is how it makes you feel. He’s not making you happy, and it won’t get better if you stay. You can’t fix him, get out while you still can - from someone with experience!

How long have you been together?

I wouldn’t stay with somebody I respected so little - anything else is more or less irrelevant. Read your post back to yourself: how on earth is this a good relationship for either of you?

Do you live with this current boyfriend?

Where there’s no trust there is only dust (as they often say on here).

The problem with lying is that it can so easily become habitual.

My advice would be to leave him.

Absolutely leave. The lying will slowly send you crazy as you will doubt everything.

I would leave. I couldn't stay with someone who did that. I have a family member who is like that and I've had to distance myself from them, so I can't imagine how hard this must be on you.
They are very unlikely to ever stop.

Would you leave? I think I’m going to.

I love this op.

Where there is no trust there is only dustis gold.

Sounds exhausting.

In the bin.

There’s a bigger picture here and the people telling you to walk away or throw it in the bin have obviously never dealt with family members with mental health problems.

1. gas lighting is an obvious red flag and I would end the relationship
2. talk to him about it, is there a mental health problem? Does he need help?

if you’re in a long term relationship and you live together etc I think he deserves a partner who wants to try and help him… think about the shoe being on the other foot. If you were hiding a mental health issue or didn’t realise you had one and your long term partner just walked off and left you…how would you feel?

Yes I would leave. If you can't trust what he says, what is the point?
Even when he's telling the truth you'll think he's lying...and that's his own fault.

have you heard of french language oral lying?

When you are asked questions in french in your french language exam, what you answer doesn't matter, only whether it is grammatically correct matters.

For some people, every conversation is like a french language oral. They are only concerned about saying something socially acceptable, not whether it is true or not. This could be because of trauma, social anxiety, language disorders, many things

I would 1000% leave. The reason for the lying is irrelevant. It is not you job to try and figure it out or fix him.

Whether it is a mental health problem or not - he has to be the one to want and seek help, and from experience they seldom do. Even with some degree of help you'll likely always have problems and staying with someone like this will likely end up resulting in you having long term issues and possibly mental health problems as well.

if you’re in a long term relationship and you live together etc I think he deserves a partner who wants to try and help him… think about the shoe being on the other foot. If you were hiding a mental health issue or didn’t realise you had one and your long term partner just walked off and left you…how would you feel?

I disagree with this. She does not have to sacrifice her own well being to help someone else (her staying is unlikely to help anyway, she'll just end up suffering as a result). I speak from experience.