What decision to make

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I’ve been married 5 years but towards the end of last year I started having moments of being unhappy. It all started bcuz before we got married there was some infidelity in the relationship that my husband never admitted to and there were so many lies around the situation. It took me a long time to get over and I don’t think I ever dealt with it properly since I never got the truth. The mistake I made was getting married after that. Our marriage wasn’t all bad but there were times we would argue horribly and the way my husband would react affected my view of him. He has worked on his temper and it has gotten a lot better. However, there were instances I caught him lying during our marriage as well and I’ve spoken to him about it but I don’t think he gets it. The way he has been able to lie so easily makes it hard to know the truth sometimes and has affected how I feel. I recently got in touch with an ex who I feel like is the love of my life, but I’m also newly pregnant with my husband and not sure what to do. He is really excited about being a dad but all I can think about is my ex and how I want to be with him. My ex and I dated when I was in college and he wasn’t ready to settle then. Now he has spoken about how he made a mistake letting me go then and how much I mean to him and the future he wants with me etc. I see the difference in his behaviour now vs then which shows his growth. Is it unreasonable to leave my husband and not give our family a chance?

No it's not unreasonable- if that's what you want to do
The trust is gone

'I don't think he gets it'
Ah gaslighting 101.

He gets it.
He just doesn't want you to know that.
He wants you to feel unreasonable or like you don't have the right to call him out on his shit.

And, what family? Sure we can't choose SOME our family...but partners we can choose. So why would you choose a bad tempered, gaslighting liar?

But for goodness sake op, don't leave one shit relationship for another.

'Oh I can see how he's changed'. What a load of bullshit! You can see how hrs changed ON THE SURFACE. But that means nothing. If he was a shit before then, why would you risk going back!?Let alone with a new baby!

Sorry but, you need to grow up and stop making stupid decisions like a teenager.

You talk about 'growth'. Where is YOUR growth? You're finally thinking of leaving one arsehole...only to jump right back into another bad relationship!!!!! Hell, even if it was not going to be bad, its a complete unknown! You have no idea what this guy will be like now behind closed doors (it sounds like he was shit before too!). And you think he'll just accept a baby that's not his, raise it with you like happy families?

Come on op, give your head a massive wobble.
If you want to leave your marriage, fair enough. But leave because it's right for you. Not for some bellend ex who's trying to sell you a watch.Which he is. At best he wants to leg over and will vanish once you split with your partner. At worst he's some sort of toxic abuser sort looking for an easy target and a newly single mum sounds good.

I mean what kind of creep sniffs round a married women anyway? He's playing you. Don't be fooled.

Time for you to have your own personal growth.

How pregnant are you?

Tbh while your husband is a bad egg there is the strong possibility that your ex wants you because you are taken and what's forbidden is exciting. I would leave my husband but having contemplated and accepted the possibility of being alone.

Either leave for you or stay for you but either way, block the ex. He's baaaad news. A wrong'un.

I’m 13 weeks.

Well to be fair when we started talking I wasn’t pregnant and I only told him I was pregnant a few days ago.