My DH and I have been together almost 12 years, married almost 5. For the last 18 months we haven't been getting on like we used to, have had lots of issues, right and wrong on both sides.
Fundamentally it comes down to my DH ALWAYS putting his own needs/wants, and the needs/wants of others before mine. It's like my opinion on things that effect us as a couple - money/how we spend our free time - just doesn't count for anything. If he wants to do something, he will do it, regardless of how I feel.
Generally day to day things are OK but we just bumble along, the big/deeper issues aren't addressed despite me trying to discuss things multiple times. I think this has led to me feeling less connected to him, and our sex life has suffered massively. He wants to sleep with me all the time, and I really just don't want to do that with him.
How do you know when enough is enough? I love this man, and obviously thought we'd be together forever, but if he doesn't consider how things effect me, and thinks I should just get on board with his "like it or lump it" attitude, how can we continue?
Has anyone who has experience similar got any advice please? When did you know you wanted more from your partner? Did you get it or did you go and find a new one? Thanks.