Hello. I live with my partner and DS5 and dd8. We live in a big lovely family home which the children love. However the relationship is very toxic and pretty much always has been. He's a very volatile person and often rages around the house for very small unreasonable reasons. Hes very verablly abusive but has only got physical a couple of times by throwing things at me and tripping me over intentionally once. I currently dont have a job or any money of my own. He will let me use his credit card for household/family related purchases and will buy things for me if I ask for them. For example, he recently bought me a pair of shoes and because I asked for them. But he does get very angry about money and often shouts at me for overspending at the supermarket etc.
Ive never wanted to seperate because i wanted the kids to have a proper family because i didnt and i feel its very damaging for kids not to have a proper family. But i guess this is much worse now. I dont have anywhere i can take the kids and I dont have any money . But staying here is becoming intolerable and he will make it horrible for me and the kids if we seperate but live under the same roof until the house is sold. Im just so scared to put the kids through that.
I guess im looking for ideas or advice on what to do