When my boyfriend was single, nearly 2 years ago he was friends with a woman. They would go on dates but she kept him leading him on saying she was unsure what was going on etc.
One night he went out with some friends. A woman he never met before was with them. He said she was slim - I have seen the photos of their night out and she was quite overweight which there is nothing wrong with so I don't know why he lied.
He said she was flirty and followed him in to the toilets and started touching his privates when he was urinating. He ended up back at hers, he said they were messing around and said she got on top of him and he said he felt she forced herself on him. I said well if you take your clothes off it is giving a mixed message. He said he didn't want the one night stand woman for a relationship and she was very upset he was not interested in more.
He said the woman he was dating asked if he was seeing anyone and she went mad when he told her about the one night stand. He said he felt awful as a person and it messed his head up and he hurt 2 people. He did say he doesn't know why he is talking about it and said he should stop. I reassured him they these women had their part to play with some manipulation going on.
He said both of these women had drink problems and one had her children taken off her and another risked losing her child. I don't understand why he would entertain these women who have an alcohol addiction and can't be there for their children. I did say they should have been focusing on their children and not messing around. I do feel he exploited them when they were vulnerable.
He mentioned this scenario a week ago too. I felt a bit uncomfortable today as I feel he is telling me too much detail. I am not a counsellor and don't want to hear about his sex life with past conquests.