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Feels like everything is falling apart

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MamaHood · 04/03/2024 00:48

I conceived my baby (unplanned) after only being with my partner for a few months. He loves our baby (14 months) to bits but says he’s not sure he wants to be with me. He’s been hot and cold with me since our baby was 2 months old.

I feel like I can’t keep trying to make him love me (I know that’s not how it works) but I’m so scared to be on my own and I love him/would be happy to stay with him. He was not long out of a divorce and wasn’t looking to settle when he met me so misses his freedom etc. I love my baby but the lack of sleep etc is so hard and I can't see how I could do it on my own.

I feel so lonely as lots of my old friends have just dropped out of my life since I’ve had a baby / moved cities and making new Mum friends has been hard work too. I’ve got people to have play dates with but the friendships just seem to be quite superficial and don’t progress to actually being mates, we just meet up for an hour or two while our babies play. I really don’t have anyone to talk to about anything and I feel so lonely.

I’m just not sure where to go from here. I’d like to focus on me more and take up some new activities to make friends but I’m not sure what. My brain is so foggy form just being a mum 24/7 that I don’t even know what my passions are now.

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sheenaisapunkrocker · 04/03/2024 01:01

I'm so sorry, this sounds really hard

Honestly, you'll be better off without someone who isn't committed to you and your child, you both deserve better than that.

Lean on your family and keep up with the play dates - some of the parents will turn into to friends with time. Don't be afraid to say that you value their time and company, and proactively plan meets; I'd like to bet that they will be grateful for them too.

I know its scary, but hang in there, it will be ok xxx

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