Condoms and Oral sex

[Geordielass35]

Recently I was dating and spending intimate time with a new man. It ended, I had reservations about exclusivity and whether he could commit long term. But it was fun while it lasted and ended on good terms.

When it came to PIV I protected myself by ensuring he wore a condom. He complied with this request and respected it, as he should.

However when it came to oral, we didn't use them. I've been reading about the risk of STI's and the importance of using them for oral but it's something I've never done. I thought I was being sensible and responsible when I clearly wasn't. In the future I'm going to be more careful.

I have no symptoms. Is it unlikely I have an infection? Is it worth me getting checked out?

Yes. Chlamydia can live in the mouth/anus/vagina.

It can be present in each area exclusively too. You should ask for a mouth swab

Yes. Herpes can be passed orally, for example. Get yourself to the GUM clinic and have a full STI screening. No one there will bat an eyelid - they'll just think you're being responsible. If sexually active in any scenario other than a monogamous relationship I'd be having regular STI screenings anyway whether I'd used condoms or not (I always would use condoms, but some things can be passed on regardless like warts, and herpes for that matter).

Yes, it's a possibility. Had you had any discussion about STIs before sleeping together? I'm fairly sure the last tests I had asked if you wanted oral as well as vaginal swabs (reminds me, should book another.)

Other than them having tests, I don't know what you can do. Obviously you can refuse to give oral, but if you want to do it, it's horrible to give with a condom, whether flavoured or not. (Lube also tastes horrible, I recently discovered.)

Yes get tested but check incubation period had passed for accurate results.

Hpv can be in your throat and with bad luck develop into throat cancer.
You could use unflavoured thin condom and smear cream or nutella or honey on the condomed penis. Would you wear the female equivalant or just refuse him licking you?
Even if you check every 3 months if you or your partners keep fucking other people there is always risk.

@EBearhug Yes we had discussions and they were positive, but what he says and the reality may not be aligned. I think I might swerve it in the future until the relationship is well established