Evening mums netters,
I finished my marriage in October due to escalating arguments between myself & ex dh. He has always struggled juggling his stressful business bringing his bad mood home & after a death of someone close to him last year he was very difficult to be around; moody, gaslightly, angry & selfish. We have 2 young children & it came to a head in October when he lost his cool shouting at myself & a friend of his over a minor problem I realised I just couldn’t live being treated badly any longer. Fast forward 5 months & he’s in therapy, councilling and upon antidepressants. He’s stuck to our coparenting plan & been a good consistent dad to the kids despite living away as well as supporting us financially.
id like your thoughts on what I should do. Wev made plans to formally separate, begin divorce proceedings & cut our financial ties, I plan to move out of the family home with the kids soon. Since he has left there hasn’t been a day he hasn’t told me he loves me & begged for another chance. I know I love him beyond measure but am scared of the instability he presented to me & the kids. I’m desperate for the mental health interventions to have an impact but do you think they will? Do people change? He’s my best friend & father of my children but I feel my heads telling me to put it in the bin & move on.