Couples counselling - worth it?

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'D'H and I are on the brink of separation. We have been trying to work though our issues to no avail. Have 2 DC (2 & 7) so thinking of couples counselling before we smash the family to bits.....but does it work? Has anyone ever repaired their relationship with CC?

A good while ago, my wife and I went to Relate. The counsellor didn't push hard enough and our sessions became a cozy chat, achieving nothing.

I'd say, from my admittedly limited experience, that your counsellor needs to be prepared to push you both into uncomfortable areas.

I wish you luck.

I should add that, despite my experience, I believe counselling can work. I imagine that you, your partner and the counsellor need to be fully committed to challenging the past and creating a new future.

In my experience, it more often fails because couples leave it far too late. It should not be a last resort. I wish you luck.

Yes it works. Did it twice and really helped both times but wouldn't say we were on the brink of separating. At least you can say you tried everything if it doesn't work or potentially split more amicably. Not helpful if one partner is abusive.

Saved my marriage. Also found it useful to do individual therapy too - to really work out what I wanted for me.