I don’t even know where to start. My husband’s family (mother) is visiting and I find her very difficult (usual toxic behaviour but that’s not the issue). We, as a couple, are going through a bit of a hard time at present (he lost his job and mine is a bit stressful). I explained to hubby beforehand that I had a full schedule and that I neither had the time nor emotional capacity to babysit her whilst she was here; he said he understood. Let me be clear, I have worked, done all childcare (drop off/pick ups/homework etc), I have cooked and provided her with her little “necessities” and I have sat in her company. What I haven’t done is been very engaging or offered any commentary on her long list of complaints. So what’s the problem, my husband to be blunt. Aside from finding their relationship creepy, he is now not speaking to me, mainly because he feels I’m not making an effort with his mum. I totally understand him wanting to spend time with her, I don’t like her (I think she is manipulative and exercises (coercive) control over her children), but I feel like I am the goosberry so I keep a respectful distance (mainly for my own sanity). Has anyone any advice on how I navigate this (my heart is breaking).