What to do when you suspect

[Advicediddlyice]

I have a strong suspicion my husband may be up to something with another woman. I’m struggling to put my finger on exactly why but a few things are - spending more time at a hobby club, a recent inconsistency In how long he was there when I queried it recently, less affection towards me and seeming withdraw/distant.

However I have no solid evidence of any affair so I could be being paranoid. There are other work/personal life factors that also might account for a change in behaviour (can’t mention as they’d be outing…but basically stressful event).

What would you do in this situation?
Should i outright ask or say I’m feeling paranoid?
I was close to snooping as his SM tonight, but I didn’t partly for fear of being caught and partly because it feels so wrong. What wouldn’t you do or have you done ??

You'll likely get told here to ask outright, but it's so unlikely you'd get honesty if there was any betrayal. I'd just keep on guard, he'll slip up somewhere if something untoward is going on

That’s my worry. I want to ask but if anything has happened/is happening it could just be an opportunity to lie and he’ll be more careful.

Honestly can’t get it out my head the last few days and I can’t sleep now thinking about it.

@Advicediddlyice, the changes in his behavior are affecting your peace of mind. If he is up to something, confronting him right now may send him underground. I would first investigate his phone, pockets, drawers, car, and any statements you have access to.

I hope you get to the bottom of this.