Husband (32) threatens to take my 1 year old son away if I leave.

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I knew my husband since I was a teenager. We had our first baby last year and he has become like a different person. He is very controlling, critics me every step I take.

When we fight he threatens to abduct my son. My question is there anything I can do to prevent this from happening are there measures that I can put in place beforehand?

Speak to the police, hide your son’s passport etc.

Is your husband from a different country and would your son be eligible for a second passport?

Yes he is from a different country. I don't think police can do much without him actually taking my son.

Are you able to record the threats?

https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/making-agreements-about-your-children/your-ex-partner-is-taking-your-children-without-consent/

Here you go.

Two things are illegal here

1. Threatening you is coercive control
2. If he attempted it it’s abduction

Read up.

Take immediate steps and precautions.

Then seek professional support (WA) to get you and your child safely out of this RS.

It is not unusual for men to become abuse to partner after birth, during pregnancy and/or on marriage, living together.

Contact Reunite, they have loads of info on preventing abduction.

www.reunite.org/prevention-of-abduction/

Have the passport in a different house and leave. The best thing to do is report him to the police and leave. No-one who threatens this shit is someone to raise a child around.

Yes, they can. This is coercive control, and these types of threats are against the law.

Call the police, hide your child's birth certificate and passport, call Women's Aid, and get support from your family.

Get away from this man as soon as possible.

Can you get a prohibited steps order?

You can get a court order in place preventing your child from being removed from the country. Also hide his passport.
I would start be seeing a solicitor

Is there an agency or charity that supports women in abusive relationships in your area? Women’s Aid or similar?

Being controlling is abuse. Threatening you is abusive. You need support.

Hide your baby’s birth certificate as well as passport. Somewhere out of the house. Maybe with a relative?

Keep posting and take care of yourself, OP.

Pack a bag, take your baby and get out of there. Horrible man!
I hope you have some RL support, some finances and a stable job to fall back on OP. This will be tough, but nowhere near as tough as staying with this pig would be.
Agree with PP. Make sure you have your son’s documents. Burn the passport if necessary - you have no need to take him out the country and that stops him doing it - you can report it lost and get a new one later on if necessary.

Please reach out to a women’s shelter, but I agree to start taking steps to leave. Also, make sure there isn’t any tracking on your phone, some controlling partners do this without their OH’s knowledge. Take good care and get all the support that’s available x

Also, try to document everything. If you do not feel it’s safe to voice record or store notes in your own home. Call a friend and get them to write everything down and keep it with them. Times, dates and content x

I don't know the specifics but it can be reported (maybe to the pasport office?) that he's threatening to leave the country with your child without permission and he can be banned from flying with your son without your consent.

OP can get a flag on the existing passport so that if he applies for a new one (claiming it is lost etc) she'll be notified. I did this a few years ago. Things may have changed. They told me it couldn't stop him applying as (as things stood) he had PR and there was no final court order. But at least you can be notified of his intentions.

Passport office contacts here. They were really helpful to me

www.gov.uk/stop-child-passport

If your a victim of domestic violence you get legal aid.