Priorities

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Other half off work on sick, no fault off his own, work policy has to follow it. but while being off he won't do a thing in the house / walk dog, constantly sleeps or complains he's sore. (Child missed few days at school cause he couldn't move to take him) Struggle to get him out at weekends to do family stuff, unless I moan apparently , Yet been invited to a drinking session with work mates at night time (school day) won't get home until midnight or after. I have work in the morning, can't do school run . I don't mean to sound selfish, but am I over reacting saying he can't do all the other stuff, but jumps for the booze session!!! He's saying am keeping him a prisoner! Won't let him do anything. But the days am at work I ask him to help out with the house, be more active, go to gym, or go out instead lying about on the couch all day

If he's sick then how can he go out drinking with work?

So, how does he justify it?

Am at a loss, incident occurred in work. Policy rules to take time off until occ health confirm suitable to return, since this incident he can't sleep at night, sleeps during the day / sits on computer games He's drinking alot.... sits up to all hours in the morning, hes getting counselling through work, am going through health issues that's needing ops / treatment still working trying to be positive. I don't stop him going out, but this party night with work people there is a school night and I literally have no one else to take our child to school the next day and If he's out all night drinking he won't move. He can't understand what am trying to say to him.

He can't understand what am trying to say to him

So, how does the conversation go? You ask him 'How come you can go out drinking but you can't do housework?', and he says 'Sorry, I don't understand you.'

"Understand" is the wrong word for me to use actually, anytime I ask him the question. He gets all arguementive (like a child really) whenever am trying to get my feelings across, I come home every night do everything including dinner!!! He's just coming across as being lazy and does what suits him and when

I was brought up being told if you’re too I’ll to go to work or school you’re too I’ll to go out /drink.
If your H has a drink problem he needs to get help. Was the incident at work related to drink ?

There is literally no point to you being with this loser.

I would be more livid about your child missing school due to partner being too lazy to take them - terrible parenting

My exh had depression.. Refused medication.. Used alcohol to cheer himself up. Too depressed to walk ddog /shop /school runs.. Managed to make it to the pub /pool team /good course..
Exh...

*golf course..
No job but had to have golf membership as he was depressed...