What’s the ‘normal’ way to resolve this?

[Worriedaboutleaving]

I have a personal problem - I can’t stand listening to the radio - particulrly in the evenings - it’s the talking that makes me feel like I’m in a garage or some kind of day time bustly space and I just can’t relax. It’s like I have a phobia about it. If it’s on I have to go up to the bedroom which I also hate as we have a really lovely cosy sitting room where I love to be in the evenings.

(D)H wants to listen to the radio 1-2 nights a week. I’ve asked for a music-only station / playlist or something, so he still gets the variety of music. He says he shouldn’t have to do all the compromising and flatly refuses to find a music only station or playlist.

How do normal people resolve this?

I think it’s a shared space and so we need mutually agreeable music or whatever.

He said ‘i believe a shared space is a place where compromises are made to make the space enjoyable for all and I do not believe that I have to make all the compromises all the time. i listen to my music 1 night a week at best. you get your way every other night and you can not compromise even one night. if find that so fucked up i can not stand it.’

What’s the solution?

@SoundTheSirens i would hope it would be - we do have Alexa - I’ll look into it tomorrow.

Sorry to drip feed re headphones / ear buds - I have to wear ear plugs as he snores so loudly, and as a result my ear are mildly irritated all the time (exzema type thing) so they aren’t a comfortable option for me at all.

So it’s either we share a room listening to music (no radio chat / ads) together, or he works at the kitchen table with the radio on or I go to the bedroom for the evening.

Btw thank you everyone for your input - all very much appreciated.

Im the same camt stamd talking on a radio in the house BUT .. loveit in the car.

Headphones are the only realistic option

Previous posters are meaning he wears headphones to listen to the radio, not headphones to block out the radio. So he listens using headphones and you can have something else on.

If you are happy to go to another room he is being ridiculous insisting you have to be with him listening to radio you hate.

If I have understood it correctly, you are fine for him to have the radio on, you just want to be in another room while he does it.

Then he needs to suck it up quite frankly.

You would hate to be me - my partner can't sleep without the radio on. I have grown to tolerate it, but I love a night when he is away or I am away, and I can sleep in total silence!