Shall I give it time?

[Melk12]

my friend of 6 years has confessed he likes me. He’s the sweetest , nicest person and I know he would be the perfect boyfriend.

The only problem is that I’ve never looked at him like that before and I don’t know if I’m sexually attracted to him.

I spoke to my aunt and she said things grow with time and I should spend some time with him to see if I look at him a different way.

has anyone else this and worked out?

How flattering! This is nice regardless of what happens. Do you think there's any potential of you finding him attractive?

Sometimes, knowing that someone 'likes' me (or suspecting that is the case) has eventually triggered crushes out of nothing, so unless you are repulsed I think give it time - but be honest with him that you need that time.

I also had a failed relationship that I entered because he was lovely, really liked me and was a 'catch'. Was never into it, and it ended in heartbreak for him.

I maybe wouldn't start going on dates etc., immediately, as pressure is a turn off. What have you said to him so far?

What's the alternative?

Well I mean if you don't fancy someone after 6 years ..how much more time?

I mean sometimes there's lightning bolts like where the guy confesses like this and suddenly you find yourself looking at them differently.

It doesn't look like that's happened though... :/

I mean you could tell him you're flattered but it's totally out of the blue so you don't know how you feel and 'how about we go out on a few dates and see how it feels?'

But you've also gotta be sure not to lead him on. Or worse, get with him because its what HE wants. You've got to be prepared to say 'sorry but this isn't for me' if you don't fancy him. Also, to end the friendship top because this guy is no longer your friend, sorry, he's someone who fancies you. That means it's no longer a friendship, irregardless of shared history.

@usagisan thank you. I’ve said to him that we could spend some more time together and see how we feel and to see if anything develops naturally.

I also don’t want to lead him on so I’m trying to be tactful

What's wrong with honesty, and allowing him responsibility for his own emotional life, rather than taking responsibility for it yourself by 'trying not to lead him on'? He is an adult, isn't he?

'I don't want to lead you on. I don't have romantic feelings for you at the moment, but I wouldn't rule it out. Given that, how would you like things to be, going forward?'