Little lies getting me down

[DustyLee123]

Yesterday DH said that DD had asked him something about what I was doing, and he told her what I was doing. It turns out that it was the other way around, he’d asked DD what I was doing and she’d told him.
Now that’s a very little lie, but I’m absolutely fed up of these little lies, it’s been going on for years, so much so that I don’t even call him out on them anymore.
I feel like if I were to say something, I’d get accused of being a nag, so I don’t say anything any more, and that’s not like me. I feel like he has pushed my feistiness down so I’m no longer the person I was. I can’t work out if he’s done it, or if it’s perimenopause doing it.

Lies are destructive. Even little pointless ones. Almost especially little pointless ones. What's the point in talking to someone at all if what they say is going to be a lie?

I often use the analogy of the house built on sand or rocks. When someone lies, your house is built on sand without solid foundations.

Also, when someone lies about little things, the one thing you know about them is that the truth is unimportant. If you can't trust them on the smallest things, how can you trust them on the big thngs?

If they're lying about little stuff, you can be sire they're lying about bigger stuff too. Or will.

I agree, I don’t believe a single thing he says anymore, I just let it go over my head. I never used to be this weak.

You're not weak.

Rather you're run down by the dishonesty.

How can you invest more in someone who is not to be trusted?

Can you split? It's not going to get any better.

It’s true that it’s not going to get any better. DD has returned from uni for a short time, I think when she goes again I will make a decision. I don’t lie, so why should I have to live with someone who does.

Yes it's like a rot. And will make you second guess yourself all the time.