I've been seeing someone for a while now. At first we'd go on dates that always seemed to involve a drink, didn't think too much of it until I started to spend time with him in the week to realise he drinks most nights in the week too. He says it's only a couple of cans but can easily go through 8 cans and a bottle of red by himself.
Theres been some weekends (and weekdays) where he's sent me really frisky messages, couldn't quite believe it at first as he's usually not confident like that when we're together however, after speaking with his friend recently who was taking the mick out of him saying "we all know xxxx ploughs through the snow like a snowplough" it became apparent that a drink isn't all he likes. I tried to speak to him about it but he just said he doesn't do it when I'm around.
This got me thinking. I receive texts like this regularly when we aren't together, especially on weekend nights I'm not with him. I switched my active status on on Facebook this weekend, only to realise he was up pretty much all night. He's said because he doesn't NEED it, he doesn't have a problem. I know a girlfriend of his friend who has told me he's taken it for years. All the pieces are clicking together; the fact he doesn't have money because he says he pays so much maintenance. How he's all over me one minute but the next day or two he's really quiet and withdrawn.
I don't hang around with anyone who takes drugs and have never done so myself, but I do feel that there's more to it and he's in denial. This has put me right off, as I don't feel I know him. Also, he had his son this weekend after being up all night and I don't feel like that is a safe parent. Would you say he has a problem?