Strange boyfriend behaviour....

[twinkle2525]

I feel I'm with a narcissist please tell me what you reckon & please be kind. Story time:
I'm a mum of 3. Two teens and a 6 year old boy who I share with their daddy.

Met my new man over 18 months ago. We met in person. Very random meet. He asked me out. I wasn't really interested but he was persistent. He wasn't my type but loved his personality. Gave it a go. Why not.
We got on like house on fire. He couldn't do though for me. He idolised me completely.
Queen treatment. He's 46 I'm 32. He's financially secure. Got his own mortgage, car, good job etc. no children. Never married. Had a long relationship that ended 5 years ago.

Example, last summer, he turned up did all my garden for me, DIY in my house the lot. As I'd moved house and it was far from nice. Needed a lot of work.
My car broke down last year. It was not worth fixing. He bought me an Aud out right. I didn't even ask.
Looking back now he was totally love bombing me.
Since he bought the car last summer I felt things go a bit sour.
If we had a night apart, I'd let my 6 year old boy sleep with me for special mummy cuddles which he adores and my man would get very jealous and say how weird it is!! And he needs to grow up!! It disturbs me. But I thought hmmm he's not a parent he don't get it.
As time goes on it's apparent he's jealous of my little lad. He's a total mummies boy. In October I lost our first baby at 7 weeks. Don't come for me plz about getting pregnant too soon.
He wasn't the most supportive but he's a childless man & had much to learn. I was so poorly for 7 weeks and then poorly after miscarriage and he took it as me rejecting him cuz I wasn't myself. He has some great quality's but some bad ones.

When we met he was average Joe looking if you like. Because I go on the sunbed he now does and he's never touched one in his life. He's dark as ever. If I pierce my ear, he'll pierce his ear. If I have tomatoe soup he'll go make it too. I've always burned insence.. he's gone & bought 20 packs!! The creams I use, he's gone & bought for himself. I find it mad. It's like he's not got his own identity. He copies everything.
Since my miscarriage one minute he'll text me saying I don't want children let's get that straight!!
Then a few days later he'll text me saying let's make a baby. It's killing me.
I don't know what's real anymore.
My main concern is him saying it's weird my 5 year old is allowed in my bed. Xx

I had similar with the copying, although he was 21 years older than me, and despite being the other side of middle aged seemed like I had taught him how to live, he would copy so much from the food I cooked to what I did with my kids at weekends, even to face creams too, funnily enough. I left and even though sometimes I wish someone else would buy me elaborate gifts and relentlessly think of me, I know really that it was excessive and manipulative. I hope you manage to do the same too, for your little boy if you can’t manage to do it for yourself.

OP please, please stop using sunbeds - they are so dangerous.
Oh and stay away from this man - put your child first, no normal grown adult is jealous of a child, and if you continue to be with him you will not be putting your child first.

Another one here who experienced copying with a covert narcissist, really creepy stuff & too many things to be coincidences

Definitely time to walk away

Lovebombing comes at a price, and he will want return on all he does. I'm guessing constant attention you say you get 1 day off from him when you sleep with your DS, are you saying you put up with this fuckwhit's presence 6 out of 7 days a week? Do you have a life outside if him? Are you not fed up of his constant presence? What if you go out with mates for an evening, is he OK with that, or have you ditched them for him?