Feel like a nuisance

[seemedancing]

I don't feel like dps want us in their lives.

My df always complains that I'm on the phone too long with my dm. That they are busy dealing with everyone's problems and now that we are gone, they can start to enjoy themselves (in life).

I don't feel like I can nip over without calling.

They have never taken the gps overnight and don't want to.

We are grown up dc (mid 30s) and our dps could easily afford to enjoy themselves but my df choses not to retire (and blames it on us).

I'm made to feel like such a nuisance.

My parents were like this. I pushed the relationship but looking back I should have gone LC. They are both deceased now and frankly although I miss having family I don't miss the constant rejection and am happier than I've ever been and my MH is much improved. Its them not you.

I would still call your Mum. Not sure how long you are in the phone for, but unless all their kids are on the phone for extended periods, I can't see it being a problem. I call my Mum every day. Both of us are capable of cutting it short if we want to.

Just say to him with a laugh that he is starting to make you feel unwanted! He would hate it if you never called, but you can ask him and your mum what their preference would be!