DH and I have been married for over 20 years, both very young when we got together.
He has always been a bit cheeky. I was upfront when we got together that I did suffer S.A as a child. He's been mostly understanding.
I find men intimidating at times, but never DH...until the last few years.
When he drinks he gets incredibly crude. Now I am by no means a prude, I can enjoy a laugh. But it's become relentless every time he has a drink to constantly tell me how "big" he is... Makes constant references to his balls and sex.
At first even though it seemed odd I laughed along and treated it as ironic dark humour...but it's got to the point where I just find it odd and intimidating and these comments have started creeping into sober times too.
When I've broached the subject with him, even when sober he tells me I'm a prude and it's a joke and to "lighten up".
Am I meant to just have to reassure him that he has genitals every time he makes the "joke"? Because if I don't laugh along, if I ignore it, change the subject or do anything other than tell him "yes you do, dear!" or hop on board, I seem to be made out as a frigid prude and he sulks.
I just find it a bit gross and it reeks of fragile masculinity but I don't know what else to do or how else to respond...AIBU??