ADVICE PLEASE

[needsomehelpsometimes]

Hey,
How do I know if a guy wants something more?
I have been seeing this guy. We meet almost every week and he offers to come to me to do activities since I don't drive yet. He then drops me off home and always messages me straight away when he is back. We speak every day and he is very respectful.
I guess I am personally scared of asking where things are going because when we first started talking we both didn't know what we wanted, but I would like more with him if he is willing. However, this is where the fear comes in. I don't want to be hurt.. and I just don't know how he will react.
I guess I just need someone to tell me to go for it and stop being silly, but what happens if this isn't the right time.

I am all for women asking these questions but I am a very quiet person usually and find things like this hard.

Do you mean sex or a long term relationship?

Long term

How long have you been seeing him? Have you had sex with him already?

We were speaking before November 2023 went on a few dates and carried on talking as xmas was busy and since Jan we've seen each other every week.
And yes only once and we've seen each other twice since then

I don't know how old you both are but it doesn't sound as if the two of you are in the throes of passion about each other. Would you say you are?

If you want to have a more serious relationship then you have to have the " where do you see us as going from here?" chat.

Every week isn't a lot. Does he live far?

Have you had the 'obligatory' exclusivity discussion yet?

The English in me says if he's still there after sex and he's still pretty respectful, he's serious... the American way these days however is that you have to have 'the chat'.

He does live quite far which is why we struggle to meet up sometimes but we make it work and because of this once a week is good. We are both teachers so use to late finishes etc.