Is this weird 2 days after having caesarean still in hospital…

[MamaJayBarton]

I had a baby a couple of months ago via caesarean. I stayed in hospital a couple of days. Two days after giving birth, from my hospital room, my husband attended an online award ceremony for his boss whom he had nominated for an award for being amazing and inspirational leader. They are quite close. He seemed more proud of her and excited about this than of me having a baby. I’ve thought about this from time to time since, and just find it odd. Or AIBU not to be the focus of his attention during this precious time? We had been trying 6 years with many losses to have our baby. I feel that his work penetrated our family and personal life yet again.

I agree about the bar being set low. My partner was there for me and my girls 100% after both births. There were zero outside distractions for him. He was at the hospital with me literally as much as he was allowed to be and more. I didn't beg him for this, it's just how it was.

My ExH was pretty pants during my labour (v long with failed forceps then a section), hardly visited me when I was in hospital and did not help me get any rest once home. I had PND too and he was so disinterested I never spoke to him about it. Sounds silly to say now as my DS is almost 30, but I always resented him for it. The one time I actually needed him to step up he couldn't be bothered.

Obviously you need to look at the wider picture and it sounds like your DH is great, generally. There is nothing wrong with wanting to feel no 1 though!

Yes ask your husbands work to delay this for six or seven months baby's are brilliant as it gives you time a couple to enjoy a little one for hours on end and close family
Can also help.

Friends
if they live close can also offer you advice just don't tell Neighbours as sometimes that leads to everyone knowing at church or public places and if it's a private matter keep that to you and your husband and don't let the manger leak that information out .

Look the timing isn't great but he didn't leave you to to out boozing all night, it wasn't Edna on the 2nd floors 53rd birthday, it was an award ceremony for an award for his boss that he'd nominated him for. It won't be as big a thing as becoming a Dad but it's still big.

Focus on reshaping your family together. Absolutely pick him up of you feel he's neglecting you and baby or he's leaving it all for you to do.

But I think this is one time when a few hours on zoom is justified

The thing is that two or three days after the birth is when a lot of women find their hormones kick in and spend the whole time crying. My son's wife is having a baby and I have told him about this and told him on no account is he to do anything except her full and complete wishes on those days!