we Have been dating exclusively and agreed to closed our doors. It’s been 3-4 months that we’ve dating. Everything went well except This week a lot of thing has been changing suddenly from him and things started to get weird since. Firstly, He used to has his Snapchat location on but on Tuesday he decided to off it. I didn’t thought much about it until things started to shift strangely. We used to chat everyday until Thursday or Friday he just suddenly stop checking me up. So I took the initiative to send him a text selfie and he replied with a selfie back. Judging from the picture, it seemed like he had just came back from a dinner and drinks with his friend as he was wearing a proper shirt. On Saturday I thought we were going out as we made plans last weekend which he invited me to have a night out with his colleague but IVe Waited the whole Saturday and receive no updates or any text from him. I felt it was suspicious so started to send a text to him on 9pm asking I thought we were supposed to go out etc. On 11pm I received his response- I was shocked that he has forgotten or pretended he didn’t know about it. So i decided to show my friends the responses he gave me, they thought the was he replied was rather childish or immature. He did not even aplogise but seems to be ignorant about it- pretended he didn’t know anything that he planned with me. I was devasted, I knew he was out with his colleagues on Saturday as judging from the text he replied to me- he sounded tipsy as he usually don’t respond in such way. I know his tipsy behaviour, he always acting weird when he goes out drinking with his mates (judging by his text&videos he sent to me when he’s out and being tipsy)
I was super mad and I acknowledged to him how upset I was and how bad he treated me such way. He then responded “are you angry” instead and there was nothing else more. I’ve tried to sleep and suddenly woke up and felt something was going on. My gut feeling has told me to check on his Instagram which I later did. Bingo- his following increases. There’s 2 new girls he has followed. One has a public profile so I managed to check on her story anonymously. I was shocked and trembled when I found out there was a girl I didn’t know in the video of them having a party/out. From the video showed my guy drinking in a group of his colleagues, sitting beside him was two girl. I wasn’t worried about the other girl as she has a boyfriend but I was shocked to find out this girl next to him. (FYI we are both expats from differnt country living in this city and he is actually from Scandinavia.) so I stalked the girl whom was being tagged in the Story and found out it was his friend coming from the same country. Apparently she was only visiting as I stalked her profile shes def not living in our city. From this findings, I made a realisation that he did not informed me at all about having his friend from home country visiting our city and that he’s gonna show her around. I thought we were supposed to be honest with each other and opened up. But he did not text me at all in the weekend which I felt odd. He did not even invited me to this birthday party of his colleague but instead inviting her, knowing that everyone in the group doesn’t knows her except my guy. Through the night, I’ve thought it puzzled up why he’s been hiding his Snapchat location- he’s probably thought I wouldn’t like it that he went out with his colleagues without inviting me or telling me about it or that maybe there was something that was gonna happened between him and this girl- that he may be staying at his hotel spending time with her so that his location wouldn’t showed. I started to felt paranoid having thoughts about this as I felt betrayed and maybe he had something to hide as I wasn’t inform about him going out, and that I was also not informed that our plans was canceled plus I was not informed there was this female friend of him coming to visit our city. I started to seek opinion of what happened from my mates- all of them thought the same possibilities that the girl might be his ex. But I didn’t thought much and see her as a friend who just visiting. It was super strange that he only started to changed this week as he didn’t care to ask how I was or didn’t made the effort to talk to me. I was feeling panic so texted him again that I felt upset about how he has responded me in such way and forgot about our plan and Asked if he has anything to say to me. Also told him we need to have a talk and if he would be available on Sunday. He responded the next day which was today (sunday) at around 11.30am telling me sorry that he was out with his colleagues and that he actually cares for me and agreed to meet up for a talk. We then decided to set a time and location for it and he agreed with it. At around 1pm he then went to a boozy brunch in ritz Carlton hotel, judging from his Instagram story that he posted. I was surprised he went out again with his friend on Sunday as he would usually stay in on Sunday after a night out. So when the times come, I’ve informed him that I’ve arrived. He has read my message but did update me anything. I was waiting for him for 1.5h in the bar and realised he did not showed up. I called and texted him and he only opened up my messages and did not reply. I then realised I’ve got stood up. I was feeling confused and upset as I knew he’s not this kind of person who would treat people like that. I wanted to cry but I endured it. I kept texted him but he just ignored my messages. I don’t know what’s going on. Can someone gives a third party opinion of what might happened? Do you think he was spending time with this scandivian girl from his home country? Do you think they had something on together? Do you think he has lost feeling towards me and fell for this girl so decided not to show up?
my friends didn’t expect he would behaved this way and was shocked and angry when they heard my incident. Apparently everyone told me to move on but it is hard since we have been exclusive and suddenly he just cut me off or ghost me like that? :(
I felt very broken. Do you guys
think I would get a real explanation or reply from him? Or do you think we are done?
I know I don’t deserve this so I’ve sent him a text day we are done. But I know if a guy truly likes you he would find out ways to make effort to win me back. But judging from my incident, do you guys think he would?
thing happened so fast and I really don’t understand how he could change suddenly and treated this way. I really want a brutal honesty from him so that I could be able to move on. :( and especially that we are being in a exclusive relationship.
any two cents or advises from you guys?