Sleuthing help needed!! Need to track this app/website

[LiarLiar24]

Name change for this but been here a while.
I need some help on identifying an app/website please. Woke up the other day and saw my OH was on his phone scrolling what looked like a list with a picture of a person on the left hand side with writing next to it for each row. The background was pale yellow.

He realised I was awake and immediately shut what he was looking at down and opened Facebook. When I asked him what he was looking at he said FB. I said no, what were you looking at before that. He went berserk, insisting he had only just picked up his phone and was on FB, calling me mental etc. His angry reaction suggests to me he was definitely looking at something he wouldn't want me to know about.

I've had a Google and tried to see if there are any dating sites or apps laid out in that style but so far come up with nothing. This isn't the first time I've caught him looking at something that he shuts down immediately but I've never seen exactly what it is.

Any ideas on the app or site please? He's an iPhone user if that makes any difference to background colours. If he's got a profile up somewhere I'd like to find it to confront him with. And then end it.

Bumble is yellow

Fabswingers possibly? Unread messages are yellow and thumbnail pics on left

Sounds like Only Fans going by screenshots I’ve seen others posting in here?

Thanks, think I'll download it and have a search.

Hadn't thought of that site, will take a look thanks.

I googled Only Fans and it didn't seem to look the same but was one I'd thought it could be.

Was it neon yellow. A quick Google search bought up this. It is fabswingers.

Whatever app it is he reacted in a typically guilty way and tried to gaslight you in typical DARVO fashion. What a shit he is. What's your living situation-mortgaged together or renting? Combined finances? Children? I'm sorry you're going through this

Unless you were constantly paranoid and quizzing him then a loving and caring partner would reassure you and show you the website.

His reaction is over the top and stupid as he's now planted the seed in your mind (and mine) that he is up to no good.

No it was more of a pale yellow. I've just created an account and searched on there. Waded my way through lots of dick pics but no profiles that look like they could be him.

It was the OTT reaction that made me more suspicious. No kids, mortgage together though.
I've caught glimpses before of him scrolling on his phone before he realises I'm awake. He always denies it and says I'm imagining things as I take sleeping tablets some nights.
Wish I'd just grabbed his phone now.

Exactly. If it was ebay or whatever then he'd show me wouldn't he? The format was definitely not Facebook. And he definitely shut whatever he was looking at down then opened up FB when he realised I was awake.

I've just downloaded Bumble but format looks wrong and couldn't find any that may be him on there either.

The thing is, it might not be a dating app/site. It could just be a forum, but one where he's been flirting with people.

If you're going to end it, just end it. You don't need proof.

Ugh I've been here op. Searching usernames, creating blank accounts to search for my ex on there, discovering he had multiple accounts on multiple platforms but even once he deleted it would drive me mad, I'd spend hours.

Op. Next time I would lay in bed but close my eyelids half down as far as you can but not fully so that it looks as if you’re still asleep. Then I would try and catch a glimpse of what he’s looking at. I have done that before

I caught my ex searching for escorts on Viva Street. The background wasn’t pale yellow though - I don’t know if you can change the settings though.

Thanks all. I do try to look without it being obvious I'm awake but often end up falling asleep! He will always come up to bed a while after me too, even if I stay up later than usual. So is possible he's online then.
He definitely gaslights me, tries to make me doubt myself. I'd already said the other week we can just sell up and split but he didn't take the opportunity.

The problem with all this online stuff is you'll never know the truth, it's so easy to create multiple accounts on different platforms, hide apps, delete messages, go incognito etc. Once you find one thing you'll always be wondering if they are up to stuff. It is shit and it happens a lot. There's too much temptation out there for a lot of men to be able to stay loyal in my experience. They are often too weak.

Do you have access to his email account? If so you could look there to see if he has had any registration or notification emails that may fit?

When you set up a profile on bumble you can add phone numbers to your list to block so that they won’t see you on there. Just for your information, he could have done that so you don’t see him x

What he's doing on the internet aside, it sounds like you need to leave this man anyway. He's gaslighting you by trying to make you think you imagined what you saw and by saying you're basically hallucinating because you take sleeping pills. I mean WTF? That's emotionally abusive. Run, don't walk!

Do you have any other reason to think he’d be u faithful? It could have been embarrassing for another reason- geek hobby chat forum, debt or gambling addiction support, a health forum?

It’ll be something like Grindr or some kind of escort site.

No unfortunately I don't. He always has his phone on him too.

Exactly, far too many methods now. I think I need to save up some funds as a back-up and prepare for forcing a house sale.