I'm writing as I'm really concerned about my youngest sister (aged 19) and the guy she is seeing.
She's in first year at uni and that's where they met, although he's 10 years older. He's a mature student on a different course but on same campus. She still lives at home and he's in student flat.
The guy let's call him Matt seemed lovely at first although naturally we as a family were a bit concerned by the big age gap, especially as he's her first ever boyfriend. She's rather naive for her age tbh.
At first he showered her with gifts and taking her out to fancy restaurants, none of which she asked for. She just as happy with a KFC!
He took great care and effort with his appearance and personal hygiene but his standards have slipped a lot. He's over at our house few times a week for meals and has started turning up stinking or dirt, Bo and just that horrible unwashed smell. Dirty teeth, bad breath and clothes covered in stains or holes.
I've heard him on the doorstep when leaving asking my sister to lend him money, always a sob tale about needing to buy food or pay a bill. He works a few evenings per week in security so does have an income.
He never pays my sister back and she's such a kind hearted girl that I don't think she realises there's a pattern forming here.
I just really believe my sister could do better than Matt, he seems to see her as a meal ticket. We live in an affluent area and have a big house, so maybe he thinks we have money to burn I don't know.
Sister gets embarrassed by his gradual neglect of his hygiene, he wasn't like this at first.
How can I persuade her shes capable of better?