Should I continue with this relationship?

[MsLilac]

I have been dating someone for around 7 months and he's a lovely, handsome, funny guy BUT he's late 30s and has never lived away from home. I know it's a massive red flag and I was put off initially when I found out he still lives with his parents. He went to uni local to where he lives and was with his ex-girlfriend for more than 10 years but they never lived together. Again, I know, it's not a great back story. They travelled a bit together and went on quite a few holidays and never got round to saving.
My question is that he is hesitant to tell his parents that he has a girlfriend. I'm 5 years older than him and divorced with two children. I have asked if he's embarrassed by me or would this put his parents off? He assures me that this isn't the case and seems super close with them. He has now met my children briefly and I have recently mentioned to them that I have been seeing someone,
I have broached it a couple of times, as he will only stay over at mine when his parents are away. This is odd behaviour isn't it? And I deserve better than to be a secret? I know that he has told a couple of his friends about me but just can't work out why he won't tell his parents he has a girlfriend.
I know he's definitely not living with someone else as he's shown me photos of their house (definitely an older style), his room etc and when they are together. We've been out together for dinner, walks etc but all in my neck of the woods. It's just feels odd. He's full of compliments, says that he's 100% happy with me but just feels shy to tell his parents. He split with his ex a year ago.
WWYD?
I've been on here for years but haven't ever posted before.
We met OLD and he said he was looking for a relationship as did I.

I too would be put off by someone who has reached late 30s with never having lived away from home.

I'd want to know if he was independent in other ways. Does he do his own cleaning/cooking/laundry, or does he allow/expect his parents to do it?

The fact he won't tell his parents he is dating, and won't stay over unless they're away would be a big no for me. Find a man who has cut the apron strings.

Come the fuck on, op. You know you have to throw this one back.

My question is that he is hesitant to tell his parents that he has a girlfriend.

Are you sure he's not actually 13 and not a grown man pushing 40?

This is insane. Ditch the giant mummy's boy man baby.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5014300-would-this-put-you-off-a-man-never-moved-out?page=2&reply=133253876]{

Have you seen this thread? Similar question.

However, regarding your situation. Why won’t he tell his parents? He’s in his thirties, not a teen. What is he afraid of?

If he was with his ex for ten years, then they met quite young. I’d be more worried that they hadn’t moved forward. Ie. Why weren’t they living together? planning for the future etc? (I wonder if that’s why she left him?).

He seems super close to them and only stays over when they’re away. Is there an eneshment situation going on? Why didn’t he go away to uni?

He may be a lovely bloke, but doesn’t seem to have cut the apron strings yet.

Maybe he doesn't live with his parents, photos prove nothing

Have you lost your mind?

He hasn't lived away from home, hasn't saved, wants to keep your relationship a secret.

He's a giant toddler Op.

There's something wrong with that picture. Either it's not his parents he's living with. Or there's some bizarre thing going on between him and his parents.

None of the possible reasons are good or healthy. I'd tell him how you feel, that you want a relationship with an adult, and that either he can have one or he can't

Without even trying I could find a dozen pictures of me with my parents in their home.

Hes not living with his parents op. He's married.

In the extremely unlikely event he IS living with his parents, his dynamic with them is so fucked up that it's as bad as if he is married.

This made me laugh. I know!
I don't know how to comment without replying to someone, but to answer the other questions.

Yes he does have savings. A decent sum. But he mentioned something recently about being unlikely to be approved for a mortgage. Perhaps he's been been bankrupt?

Yes he does know how to cook, clean etc but his mum does facilitate a lot for him.

I may be completely blindsided but I do think he lives with them.

He has a fairly stable job which he's been in since he graduated, so for 15/16 years. He said he gets anxious with change and I'm starting to see that now and don't think that there can be a future. Such a shame as he's a lovely guy.

Replace the word parents for wife/girlfriend and it would make sense